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How to Tell If a Guy Likes You (Guys)

Two Methods:Watch for SignalsTest the Waters

Got your eye on another guy? Not sure if he feels the same way about you? Finding out if someone of the same sex is interested in you is tricky and a bit scary, but if you watch for these signals – or take steps to test the waters – you can find out.

Method 1
Watch for Signals

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    He mimics your body language. When people are listening to one another intently, they tend to subconsciously imitate each other’s body language. The next time you’re engaged in a good conversation or discussion, cross your arms, put a hand under your chin, lean forward, take a drink from your glass, etc. If he tends to follow suit, it means he’s very focused on you.
    • Don’t waste this experiment on a ho-hum conversation; if his mind isn’t absorbed in what you’re both saying, it probably won’t work.
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    He smiles and sustains eye contact. Platonic guy friends smile at each other. They also make plenty of eye contact. But if your guy makes prolonged eye contact while flashing you a big grin, he’s being far more intimate than most straight guys are around each other.
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    He steals glances. Okay, so maybe he doesn’t stare deeply into your eyes, but if you catch him looking away suddenly when you turn to face him, it means he watches you when you’re not looking. Unless it turns out that there’s a huge glob of food on your cheek, it probably means he’s interested.
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    He wants to know all about you. Guys aren’t known for their ability (or desire) to untangle the threads of their guy friends’ personal lives. If your guy asks a lot of questions about your life, interests, hobbies, friends, and, most importantly, feelings, he isn’t content with chitchat and wants to get to know you on a deeper level. Or, you're his best friend.
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    He touches you unnecessarily. Straight guys may hi-five, roughhouse, or even slap each other’s butts on the playing field, but most won’t feel comfortable with touches that aren’t rooted in play. If your guy lets his hand brush against yours, puts his hands on your shoulders while standing behind you, gives frequent hugs, or finds an excuse to pull something of your hair, he’s probably trying to kick the intimacy up a notch – or even test how you react to his advances.
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    He’s nervous around you. Does he get sweaty palms, laugh awkwardly, or have trouble speaking when you’re around? Then he’s nervous about what you think of him – which means he’s trying to impress you.
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    He gives you a nickname. A group of guys will often bestow a nickname on a friend when he does something memorable, but if your guy comes up with a nickname for you on his own, especially if you haven’t done anything remarkable to earn it, he’s making a point of how special your relationship is.
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    He tries to make you laugh. Everybody has a guy friend who’s a perpetual joker and loves the attention of a crowd, but if this guy makes a special effort to get you to laugh, he’s either trying to cheer you up (have you been blue lately?) or flirting heavily.
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    He treats you differently from other guys. Okay, so not all guys are showy about their feelings. Gay guys in particular might hold back until they know it’s safe. If he doesn’t seem to be willingly dropping you any hints, look for the opposite. Does he avoid eye contact? Speak to you quickly, briefly, or in monosyllables? Make a point of never touching you? Are you the only one he does this with? Then he either really dislikes you (if he can’t find reasons not to be there when you’re around, this likely isn’t the case) or is struggling with his feelings for you.

Method 2
Test the Waters

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    Try subtle touches. Let your hand touch his, you can let it "accidentally" touch. If he moves it out of the way quickly, then he may not be interested- watch his facial expression. On the other hand, if he slowly moves it, or doesn't withdraw at all, then he may be interested.
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    Get closer to him. When you are sitting on a sofa, lean towards him – a bit like in the movies when the guy trying to get the girl reaches his arm out across her shoulders. Don't turn your head toward him right away. If he moves away from you, this slims the chances of him being attracted to you. But if he either has a very slight or no reaction, or he repeats the gesture to you, then this increases the chances that he is interested and attracted.
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    Pop the question. Well, not literally - you don't have to ask him to marry you. But at this stage, if he responds to "accidental" touches and obvious interest from you with a return of those gestures, you need to just come out and say the words. Say something like, "You know, I'm getting a vibe from you, and I wonder if I'm reading it right. Are we just friends, or is there something more there?" Give him a chance to think it over and answer - don't rush him. Maybe he isn't sure himself, or maybe this is his first experience. He may not be clear about how he feels. If you are still in doubt, you should then say you are attracted to him and make no bones about it. If he smiles or nods, that's a good sign.
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    Give it time to develop. Once you've made your interest in him known, that will tell the tale. If he is interested and into you, he will be calling or dropping by very soon. If he isn't, he'll probably start avoiding you. If you're okay with just being friends, give him a little space and then make contact with him. When you do, don't flirt with him at all - show him that you may be interested, but you are okay with being just friends. If he's straight, there's nothing you can do about that, nor should you try. But if he's interested, give him a little time to think things over. Don't just write him off if he doesn't immediately call for a date. Keep contact up, and be patient.


  • If you are at work and he looks at you, constantly goes by your area, makes noises, or starts conversations with other people but ignores you, he wants to get your attention, meaning he likes you and doesn't know how to show it.
  • If he teases you a lot, takes your things and make you chase him for it he probably likes you. If you guys ride the same school bus, & he usually sits across from you taking quick glances at you.... He probably likes you. But, the biggest mistake you shouldn't do is to not show anything towards him. You'll make him feel bad...
  • Try to remember the first time you met him. If he acted unusually then (sudden eye pupil dilation, strange communication, etc), and still acts that way now, he may still like you- but doesn't know how to tell you or doesn't want you to know, for various reasons (such as internalized homophobia).
  • If you are sitting alone on the living room couch, and the one you like comes to take a seat, take note if he sits directly beside you, or if he has to keep touching you.
  • If he sits with you and he cuddles up with you, then he likes you, but if he is the hard-to-get guy, he will tease you, so don't feel bad about it.
  • Notice if he is more flirty when other guys are looking, or if he flirts with other girls. Most guys that like you will try to make you jealous of another girl he is flirting with.
  • If you are at a pool party, take note if he is looking in your direction all the time and looks away real quick if you see him looking. Any guy who is deeply into you will be nervous if he does not know that you are gay. Look for signs - like, when you are watching TV and he looks over at you constantly, but looks away soon after you look back.
  • If you are wrestling around and he always likes to look at you and smile and then walks away, it is a definite sign of interest.


  • Don't act like you do not like him! That hurts and confuses him, and he will move on.
  • Keep in mind that he may actually be straight and you're misreading the signals he's giving you.
  • Be respectful if you find out he is a homosexual. Don't tease or bully him as this is homophobic behavior.

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