How to Talk to Your Parents About a Book You Read Against Their Will

All children will want to read "forbidden" books, even if they come across them by chance. Parents, too, were once in that situation, so it pays to understand their motives in trying to stop "unsuitable" books being read by their offspring. They might simply want to protect you from some of the realities of adult life for a bit longer.

Steps

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    Think about "forbidden" books and why you wanted to read them in the first place. Firming up your thoughts will help in discussion.
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    Admit that you've done it, but not in a defiant or confrontational manner.
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    Tell your parents what you think of the book.
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    Try to establish what exactly they object to in the book.
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    Respond to their objections in a way which shows you've thought hard about these objections.
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    Be as mature as you can in the discussions.
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    Agree a way forward for the future so that you are all clear as to what your parents might object to.

Tips

  • Keep your temper!
  • Read as widely as you can, even "difficult" books as these can raise your critical faculties as well as give you pleasure.
  • If you don't enjoy a book, leave it to one side and come back to it later (days, weeks, months or years!); experience often opens up a formerly "unreadable" book.
  • Be critical of books, especially those which might be seen to be beyond your experience. Work out why you like or dislike them.
  • Reading helps you with spelling, grammar, and vocabulary - even "trashy" books. It's a skill like very few others which opens your mind to a vast array of information and entertainment and helps you to understand better the world in which you live.

Warnings

  • Some books describe violent and sexual encounters in a graphic way; be prepared to be disturbed or upset by them. "Less is more" is often a reasonable approach by good authors.

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