Steps

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    Surround yourself with loved ones.
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    Do not be afraid to ask for help. Even the simple things can be daunting.
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    Seek out your church; if this is your first time experiencing death of a spouse and you consider yourself agnostic, give Christ a chance. It is my experience that He transforms lives.
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    Buy a very small Swiss knife and put it on your key chain...you never know when you will need it. Your hands may need the help of that little knife. Opening boxes can be such a chore and dread. The knife helps.
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    Go to the beach, the mountains, get out in nature. It is healing.
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    Pray.
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    Read the Bible.
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    Journal every thought, feeling, situation. Good or bad...it is a tool for growth. That poison rolling around in the head can be so toxic.
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    Exercise, when you can again.
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    Eat well. Forget fast food!
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    Watch an old movie, read a book, buy knew plants, garden, clean your house, cook, go for a walk, talk to people--random conversation...keep it light.
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    Eat chocolate. Real cocoa is the best. At least 63% cocoa!
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    Treat yourself. On occasion, buy that new outfit.
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    Feel beautiful...you are a child of God. Think about that.
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    Look up at the stars at night.
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    Cry.
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    Laugh.
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    Reflect...but don't park it there.
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    Play with your grandkids!
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    Help others!!
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    Make your new home--yours. It will remind you of your new life.
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    Pray.
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    Thank God for everything...both the good and the bad.....they all serve and are necessary to draw close to our Creator.
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    Take pride in your new-found strength!
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    Make new friends.
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    Watch cartoons.
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    Whatever it is that you always wanted to do...now is the time to do it!!
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    Realize that this life is fleeting...make use of every minute.
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    Hug people and tell them you love them.
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    Be kind to yourself.
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    Be kind to others.
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    Just.....be.

Warnings

  • Do NOT stay in bed and feel sorry for yourself. In the beginning, this is necessary for you. You have been through a lot. But, there is a time to get up and carry on.

Things You'll Need

  • Family and Friends
  • Help with finances
  • Write down everything...you may not remember anything for awhile.
  • Keep a journal.
  • Talk with a Grief Counselor.

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Categories: Summarization | Coping with Loss