How to React if You Think Someone is Stalking You

Three Parts:Who is a stalker?Letting others knowReacting safely to being stalked

Do you think you are being stalked by someone? This can be a very frightening and potentially dangerous situation. If you do have a stalker there are ways to know, ways to protect yourself and ways to stop it.

Part 1
Who is a stalker?

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    Possible stalkers are often ex-partners or obsessed crushes who do not take no for an answer. They may be a co-worker, a neighbor down the street, a fellow student or someone you smile and wave to. Or, it may be a complete stranger, someone unknown and of whom you were completely unaware until strange things started happening.

Part 2
Letting others know

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    Tell others. The most important thing is to tell people you trust: family members, co-workers, good friends. Sharing your concerns with people you trust will gain you a much-needed network of support. These people will also be able to keep an eye out for you and help keep you safe.
    • If your stalker is someone close to you, they will be on notice, and perhaps stop, if they're aware that others in your circle know and are being watchful.

Part 3
Reacting safely to being stalked

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    If you are receiving anonymous calls or emails of a threatening nature try to save, record and forward them to your providers. This evidence will prove invaluable in supporting your side of things.
    • Never respond to the caller or email. This can alert them to your willingness to interact and can cause them to continue more bad behavior. Phone companies, internet providers, etc., have ways of determining who is phoning, texting, etc. you. Report all instances to them and ask for assistance.
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    Go to your local station and report any suspicious activity. Police departments take stalking threats very seriously. They will open a file and advise you of the best precautions to take and the types of information you have that will be most helpful for them.
    • If you know who the stalker is, tell the police.
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    Under no circumstances should you try to talk to the stalker. By definition, a stalker is somebody who is obsessed. This means that the person will not be rational. Any form of talking or interaction (online, by text, etc.) may even encourage the stalker to up their level of activity. They do not respect you, your rights or your privacy.
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    When you are out and about always try to be with trusted friends or family members. Have people form a barrier between you and the stalker. Make it absolutely clear that people are watching out for you, taking care of you.
    • Ask your friends to walk you to the door.
    • Avoid walking, jogging, or bike riding alone
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    Keep doors and windows locked even when at home.
    • Do not answer the door until you are sure who is there. If you are only a school child don't bother with this step, just tell your parent(s).
    • If someone knocks on the door with a delivery, call the delivery company to confirm before opening the door.
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    When meeting people be polite and friendly but keep your personal information private. In particular, do not share personal information such as phone numbers, address or your schedules or workplace location. Keep your distance.
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    Change your daily routines, bus route, coffee shop, mail and email addresses and passwords, phone number.
    • Always be aware of your surroundings.
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    Do not blame yourself but do protect yourself.
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    If the stalker knows you have done the things listed above they may leave you alone. You are not easy prey.


  • Your town or city will have a list of government, private and not-for-profit organizations resources to draw upon.


  • If the stalker specifically tells you what they are going to do to you if you won't comply to their requests, take it seriously. Report it word for word to the police or an advocate. Threats can be a prediction of the stalker's next move.
  • Stalkers with domestic violence priors, drug or alcohol problems, or appear desperate to keep in contact with you at all costs, are dangerous.
  • Security systems,alarms,cameras in the parking area and at your front door will catch the stalker and police can use this as evidence to prosecute.
  • Not all stalkers see themselves as "stalkers", a police officer can serve as a civil stand-by if you need to directly tell this person that they need to leave you alone. A police officer will tell him/ her what the laws are and direct them to help.
  • If you would feel safer armed with a firearm or a taser, first make sure it is legal in your country and that you have obtained all of the licensing, training, insurance, etc. that you need. In all countries and jurisdictions, should you end up in a situation where you injured or kill a person (your stalker or someone else in the process by accident) you need to be able to provide the documentation to your lawyer and the police. Practice utmost safety and preparation so you don't end up in this situation.
  • Changing your name, your job, your email accounts, phone numbers or even moving, as well as removing your profiles and personal information from social media and/or public information websites may not stop your stalker. It may hinder their ability or provide some level of discouragement, but it may not completely dissuade them from finding you and continue to harass you. If you find this is the case, then it's strongly recommended to go to any legal effort necessary to get the authorities involved.

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