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How to Manage Stress in a Fraternity/Sorority

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College life in a fraternity/sorority can be fun, but sometimes you may not get along with your roommates. Here is some advice to keep you from losing your cool in your dorm room/apartment.


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    Make friends! Don't put on airs/or be sarcastic or bitter. Be calm and pleasant. "Get the run of the place!" Instead of running from them: Say,

    "Good one! You know how to do it up right!"
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    Join them. Laugh a little! Say,

    "That's is why I l-o-v-e you guys! All this f-u-n!"
    • Don't act bad or mad at their practical jokes or cut-downs. (Also, laugh at yourself when you make a mistake.)
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    Turn the tables on them.

    Ask, "Who are we doing/joking next?" "Whose turn is it?" Say,

    "Let's plan something! I have some real good ideas!" (Then drop it. Don't get creepy, by blaming the wrong person! Act unaffected!)
    • Ask, "What can we do for good-clean fun -- but nothing nasty!"
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    Remain friendly with the jokers; it will confuse them, as if you're being tricky (which you are). Avoid threats of destruction or harm -- making it worse. Do not make veiled threats, such as: "I don't get mad; I get even!" or "Turnabout is fair-play!" or "Paybacks are heck!" Or, then they may do stuff and blame all of their tricks on you, if you make threats against everybody...
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    Try to get away from the situation, if it's too crazy. If you live in an apartment, go to your bedroom and listen to inspiring music, get absorbed in a TV show, use the extra energy to exercise or play video games to wind down.
    • Do not go on Facebook or MySpace, unless you are just listening to music, playing games, or watching videos. Often fights and disputes can be continued on social networking sites.
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    Never take one upmanship or teasing personally or too seriously. Sometimes your re-acting/acting-out, showing anger or displaying hurt feelings will just be fun/and a challenge.
    • Don't give an excuse to your roommates to stir it up even more.
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    If it is a more stressful situation, take a few deep breaths, counting up to ten then back down. Get some fresh air; go take a walk down the halls, or up and down stairways to cool off.
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    If you feel like the situation is way to tense to handle inside the building, exit the apartment building and go outside. It may be calming to sit in/or drive your car or run, jog or walk off that energy.
    • If you are in the dorms, exit your dorm. There are usually some activities and a reading/study area, a music listening room, TV viewing room, pool, bowling, game-room/pool tables and a snack bar in the campus student center.
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    Say I have to go, but don't tell why or where. Enjoy studying or browsing in the college library (find a place out of easy view), upstairs, in the math section or some place they won't go.
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    Discuss your problems with your landlord, resident advisor (RA), counselor, school nurse, dean or school psychologist, if you have chronic problems. They may consider an apartment or roommate change or reevaluation if needed.
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    Do other stress management techniques such as breathing, yoga, visualization, etc.
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    If you suspect the stress might be causing (caused by) some personality difficulty (shyness or bragging), disability or illness, make an appointment with your doctor or psychologist or go talk to your college disability services to get some modifications or advice.

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  • Try not to lose your cool at the level that you might cause destruction. You might experience severe consequences such as going to jail, getting kicked out of college, apartment, etc.
  • Don't go public! You might cause problem in the cyber world that may affect the real world. Do not text or call anyone. Cool off first.
    • Try not to say anything, just cool off.
  • If something threatens your life in any way, get help right away (avoid drinking/do not be "forced" to do things!).

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