How to Make a Cat Comfortable Around You

Cats are very pretty and cute creatures. Almost anyone would love to have a cat to cuddle with, talk to, play with, or just...have! But cats are also very careful and hesitant when you first meet them. Befriend your new feline friend doesn't have to be impossible.


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    Go slowly. The first time you meet a cat, they will probably be very cautious around you. Make slow movements and try not to make too much noise. Approach slowly, and crouch down so you don't seem as big. Hold out your hand.
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    Let the cat sniff your hand. This may seem like something you should do for dogs rather than cats, but you really should do it for both. Hold out your hand straight, and let them sniff your fingers. If they put their sent on you (rubbing their mouth against your hand) that's a good sign!
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    Try not to stare at the cat too much. To animals, staring can seem like a challenge or a sign of aggression.
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    Don't pick them up right away. Some cats love being held, others despise it. Either way, most cats probably aren't comfortable with you picking them up the first time they meet you.
    • If you do pick them up at some point in time, make sure they feel secure. Never take a cat when their legs are dangling, this may make them feel uncomfortable or even cause them pain. Pick them up with a hand on their back and a hand on their rear. Hold them close to you, so they don't feel like their dangling.
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    Be careful how you touch them. Cats can be very sensitive and there are certain spots on their body that they tend to prefer not be touched.
    • Be careful touching a cat's face. Be extremely careful touching the bridge of their nose, which is also a weak spot. Don't cover their face in anyway, this may cause them to become afraid. Don't blow or breathe on their ears, their ears are very sensitive.
    • Never touch their stomach. Cats' stomachs are their weak spots, something they protect very much and would rather have you not touch. Some cats may seem like they want a tummy rub. They may roll over, or lay on their side, both exposing their stomach. That doesn't mean they want to be pet there. Try to avoid touching their stomach as much as possible. They aren't like dogs, tummy rubs aren't their thing!
    • Don't touch a cat's tail! This may cause them great annoyance.
    • Be careful when scratching a cat. Try to rub, and only scratch their back when they seem like that's what they want.
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    Give them some space. Most cats will hide if there are many people around them, or even just one. Do not chase the cat or follow them to their hiding spot. If they run from you, they clearly don't want to meet you right now. Never take a cat out of their hiding spot, either.
    • If a cat comes out from their spot, that might mean they reconsider. Don't grab them quickly, or even pet them. Always let a cat come to you when your first meeting them.
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    Look for signs the cat is warming up to you. If a cat rubs against your legs, that means you've succeeded! A cat rubbing against a human's legs means they like you very much.


  • Some people like to rub a cat with their foot. Don't do this at first, it may appear you're trying to step on them.
  • If a cat hisses, growls, or makes an unpleasant meow, it probably means it's time for you to leave them alone.
  • Purring doesn't always mean a cat is happy. Sometimes cats purr because they are nervous or scared. If a cat purrs, don't automatically assume you two are best friends now!


  • Never chase a cat, or they might feel like you are attacking them.
  • Not all, but some cats will bite when they are uncomfortable. Although cat bites are nearly never serious, don't take it lightly. If a cat bites, tries to bite, or nips you, it probably means 1) It's time to leave them alone or 2) You touched/pet them a way they didn't want to be touched/pet. Leave the cat alone if any sign of annoyance or pain is shown.
  • Never yell at a cat, this may frighten them greatly!

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