How to Keep Your Partner from Straying

Ask yourself, "Why does my partner seem restless and preoccupied?" When you ask your partner to go somewhere with you, there is always an excuse to stay behind. Time to get busy on the relationship and put some energy into keeping your partner interested and engaged.


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    Make time to communicate with your partner. Leave little "love notes" and "thank you" messages, such as nice little letters as a form of showing personal affection.
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    Work happily on understanding and encouraging your partner. Be reasonable and rational to avoid destructive conflict and arguments.
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    Voice that you need to talk. Talk patiently and lovingly to improve respect and affection problems. Don't head in with all guns blazing: that won't solve anything, handle the issues the loving and kind way.
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    Avoid unfounded accusations. The partner and the outsider might use false names as a cover up... but does investigating really help you, as it will shakeup things for you. Yes, you may place blame, but it will also heighten confrontations and the inability to get along by deepening the rift/gouge between you.
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    Get relationship counseling. It can help to have a third party as a mediator. However, both parties have to be prepared to do the ground work/homework and attend the counseling sessions regularly.
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    Be prepared to listen and expect negative points as well as good points about each other. Be accepting so that way you both can begin to heal emotionally.
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    Build upon the foundation of your saved relationship. Make your partner feel special, loved and respected. How? -- Set aside quality time together -- and make real, non-violent communications.
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    Avoid boredom. Plan some fun and excitement and different have outlets in your lives.
    • Relax and do recreational activities: Go fishing, camping and hiking with the partner.
    • Have fun doing projects together: Look forward to washing the car, walking the dog, helping an elderly neighbor together, etc.
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    Avoid a relationship breakdown. Don't let your partner feel unloved and rejected because of lack of showing thoughtfulness and appreciation.
    • Never use physical or emotional intimidation: No one likes force or bullying. It tears down goodwill.
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    Be persistent in keeping up the "good-times": Forgive, forget, show respect and demonstrate trust. Show that the partner is important and wanted, not just tolerated. Keep trying nicely to get you relationship straightened out sweetly and lovingly...


  • Okay, s/he has brushed up on beauty/hygiene, showering you with unexpected gifts, hmm? Or the other seems too be working late so often, and anytime you want to talk to your partner there is an argument with you, and you feel there is something up, but you don't know what -- try some of the strategies and tactics given above.


  • Don't expect perfection or immediate changes of ingrained habit.

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