How to Include the Father of the Groom

The father of the groom should not just be the person who foots the bill for the wedding rehearsal dinner, but instead, he should be a respected and recognized part of the wedding party. There are many ways for you to include the father of the groom as part of your big day and as part of the celebration.

Steps

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    Start by asking the father of groom for advice on any traditions that he may know of from that side of the family. Possibly ask him how he planned his wedding and possibly ask his advice if there was anything he would have done differently.
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    Include the father and mother of the groom on the invitations if they are helping pay a significant amount for the wedding itself. Their names can easily be worked into the wording of the invite to acknowledge their contribution.
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    Have your groom or the both of you discuss with his father about the responsibilities of the rehearsal dinner. This can be as large or as small of an event as you would like, but make sure that it falls within his budget, and that you don't go overboard.
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    Ask that the father of the groom be available to run errands for his son if the need arises, and include him in the preparation festivities.
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    Order a unique and special boutonnière for the groom's father.
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    Let the father of the groom help the groom get his tux on and possibly straighten his tie. While his mother will generally be the one to put his corsage on, his father can help with cuff links or any other special accessory. Make sure that the photographer is around to snap pictures of both.
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    Include family photos before and after the ceremony that include him and the groom's mother, but be sure and get photographs of just the groom and his father as well as siblings, particularly male siblings. Men love the "guy" shots from the big day.
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    Include a special thank you or notation in the program thanking the father of the groom.
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    Let your groom's father be included in the ceremony if at all possible. He could say a prayer or do a reading. He could also accompany the groom's mother up to light a unity candle with the purpose of showing that the two families are uniting.
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    Consider taking both sets of parents their pieces of cake right after you cut them from the cake. This is a sign of respect to them.
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    Think about adding a slide show, and be sure to include photographs of the groom when he was a child that include his father in the shot with him.
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    Let the father of the groom make a toast. In turn, make your own toast thanking each of the parents.

Tips

  • Make sure that whatever direction you go with the wedding that the father of the groom feels included in the planning. It is a big, special day, and no one likes to feel left out, particularly someone who is potentially writing a big check either for the wedding itself, the rehearsal dinner or both.

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