How to Have Time with Your Husband with Kids in the House

Four Methods:Planning Your RoutineStaying Upbeat and PassionateConnecting with Each OtherKeeping the Love Life Alive

A happy and complete family comprises of, stereotypically, a doting husband and wife living jubilantly with their offspring in the most content manner. Any one member missing from this family frame leaves the entire definition of happy family incomplete in the opinions of some. Being a compassionate mom and an adoring wife at a same time could become hectic or more precisely, impossible. It is important to maintain an equilibrium between the two roles to avoid unnatural endeavors and future regrets. You would not like your kids questioning your negligence or your hubby slowly drifting away from family moments to quench his sensuous desires!

This article aims to aid the struggling women out there who go through toilsome efforts to have quality time with their better halves while still being super moms.

Method 1
Planning Your Routine

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    Be a perfect planner of every task that you undertake on daily basis. For example, you can jot down the daily chores and estimate the time they might take. It seems something like this:
    • 7 to 7:30 AM: Getting kids ready for school and preparation of breakfast (make the kids' favorite, to remind them that you keep their priorities your priority). Don't forget to kiss and hug them before leaving for school. Physical gestures matter a lot to children.
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    • 7:30 to 8 AM: Once the kids are off to school, rush back to your hubby (always wear some good scent to entice him), wake him up in the most romantic manner, take a hot, fresh breakfast tray to his bed (this will keep him cozy and warm). Softly strike his face or kiss him tenderly to wake him up without growing grumpy. A sudden, loud wake up call always disturbs the sound sleep and often leaves the person in a bad temper for the rest of the day. Enjoy your breakfast together, and have a hot cup of coffee with his favored breakfast. This, along with your warm company, will surely brighten his mood and ignite his passions for your closeness. Help him in getting ready for work, keep his laptop bag, car keys, mobile, etc. at proper place and always kiss him before he sets off for his job. All this will make him depend on you and long for you while he'll be away. Try to feed the dog, put yourself together, find your car keys and finish that report your boss needs at the same time if required.
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    • 9 AM until the kids are back: Try to finish all household chores before the return of your kids. Prepare lunch and dinner while you are alone and do not indulge in wasteful activities. Do not delay the basic chores; laundry, cleaning, cooking, shopping and the other stuff that might hinder your evening enjoyment. Go to work, drop your baby off at childcare if required. Or, if you have pre-school children at home and work from home, simultaneously work and do childcare at the same time. Pick up the kids from school at the correct time and ferry them around to any after school activities they do. If possible, multitask by picking up your dry cleaning, dropping by any elderly relatives you care for or returning library books at the same time.
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    • When the kids are back: You must greet the kids and hug them passionately when they are back to assure them that you've missed them the whole day. Talk about their routine at school, including any interesting things happening, and encourage them to speak up about their feelings, regrets and dreams. Try to feed and spend their time helping the kids with homework before the arrival of your husband. Give them time to play and feel relaxed and vilified in the comfort of their home.
    • The time your hubby comes back: It is a crucial time, after the hectic day out at work, your husband needs to revitalize himself, he must feel refreshed once he enters the premises of his home. Be prepared! Refurbish yourself, wear light makeup, do your hair the way he likes, dress up nicely (enticingly) and most importantly, wear a warm smile to welcome him. Don't get disappointed if he gives you a wry or indifferent look. Get him a hot cup of tea or a chilled drink (it depends on the weather). Let him cool down and fresh en up. Do not start discussing an issue or family matter, or complain at that moment. Give him a break! If you have been working all day too, your husband can still get this special treatment, as long as he treats you equally as well as you treat him.
    • While he is taking a shower or a nap, be with your kids, make their favorite snack to fill those hungry bellies. Remember, a satisfied child will be a satisfying child! Children should consume around 1600 calories a day. Check with your childcare professional to ensure you are not over feeding your children and setting them on the path to obesity.
    • Once your hubby cools down, he looks forward to your company, and all he desires are peaceful and harmonious family moments. Engage in such activities that involve the whole family and strengthens the bond between each member. Remember, moments spent together are cherished and always remembered. Watch a movie together, play a board game to keep the fun alive, share the interesting incidents and laugh together.

Method 2
Staying Upbeat and Passionate

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    Never let fun be out of your life. Sentiment and passion is the basic spirit to keep any relationship alive and worth cherishing. Remember, your countenance and demeanor effects the mindset of your family members towards life and towards the family unit. Ignite the flame of felicity and glee to strengthen the bond of your family as a unit. It is not that hard to spread the vibes of buoyancy while still playing a dual role of a lover and a mother.
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    Do not grow extra mature and old with your age, having serious countenance all the time will cause distances between you and your children. Stay upbeat and bubbly, full of enthusiasm and life. Your husband will also feel exhilarated to have a jubilant and exciting partner. Play, laugh and live your life to the fullest with your husband and kids. You will find a clear change in your life once you will bring laughter and giggles in your talk and walk.
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    Be a source of motivation and encouragement for your husband and kids. Do this to make them feel secure and loved in the boundaries of home. Your husband will be attracted towards you naturally when he finds mental and physical peace with you.
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    Try to be friends with your husband and then be a lover. You must understand his feelings, desires and priorities. You should be too close to him to actually connect with his soul, the wrinkles on his forehead and a sparkle twinkling in his eye must convey the right message at the right time. You must strive to be soul mates and not only roommates.

Method 3
Connecting with Each Other

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    Keep all family members closely connected with each other. You must play a positive role to knit the bond of strong family unit. You should develop a habit of discussing and sharing your problems and concerns with your kids and husband and similarly must keep them connected with each other's matters too.
    • Encourage your kids to talk to their father and spend some time with him. Kids must share their life happenings with their father and seek his advice. This way, you all can spend time in each others' company and will come even more closer.
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    Plan your weekends in a way that the whole family enjoys together. Family gatherings, picnics, a day at a farmhouse, watching a movie together or a simple long drive can add a fresh verve in your family life.
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    Have at least one meal of a day together with the whole family. Dinner is the best time when everyone sit around the table and share their daily affairs. Make the best out of this time to fortify the family bondage.

Method 4
Keeping the Love Life Alive

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    Do not let the flame of sensuality fade away from your married life. Your husband should not and must not sacrifice his sexual desires for the sake of you nurturing your kids. Do not take love making as a routine or a monotonous practice.
    • Bring vigor and fervor in your sex life by alluring your husband and make him feel important and wanted. Do not let him look for better options elsewhere. Put kids early on bed, get a cup of green tea for two and enjoy the erotic evening together.

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