How to Have Biblical Faith in Your Child

Often times, parents are too quick to point out to their child what is going wrong. Too many parents are overly critical of their kids. This inhibits or kills the child's self-esteem. Lovingly proactive, self-actualizing parenting leads them to perform better in school, in sports, in relationships with spirit, etc. Everyone needs confidence to be able to progress in life. This is tied to faith and belief in your family. Here are some tips on how to help your child to be more confident by having faith and belief, belief in him or her to a higher purpose and calling.


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    Expect more. Always believe the best for your child, never making excuses. Excuses go nowhere.
    • This goes for any relationship in life; we should always believe the best about people; so expect God's best.
    • Have hope that your child will make daily progress. That is success.
    • Always be positive in regards to your child: "You can and will learn to achieve whatever is in your path: Walk in it."
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    Set goals: Know that "As a child thinks -- so is he or she." Know that you create your own self-fulfilling prophesies about yourself, your family and your kid. You'll find answers after you start looking and expecting them: Amazingly, we know it works that way, but we forget to plan.
    • Let each child plan, to set ones own attainable goals -- and you reinforce this plan with your child -- then they'll try mightily to build upon the child's own plans, and become what they plan, over time.
    • Hold up a standard, a landmark to attain. He or she wants to be bonded to you, believe in you, that you know about "everything" and you're right. Think clearly. Whatever you believe will influence them more while they are young. "Train up a child in the way he should go, Even when he is old he will not depart from it." (Proverbs 22:6, 7)
    • If you believe that your child is like a little angel, then he or she will probably, most of the time, meet your expectations. If you believe one is a little spawn of the devil, from...Well...their behavior won't be as good.
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    Speak Words of Life into your child.
    • The Bible says "life and death are in the power of the tongue." You can either bring death into your and your family's life -- or joy, Life, peace and hope.
    • The way to speak Life into your child is to seek to encourage each one. To encourage means to give people courage.
    • Tell your son or daughter, "You can do anything you set your mind to do." Tell each child, "You are a quick learner, and have special qualities." Name some and be sure to notice when they show their talents. Tell them "You are talented." Tell them, "You can develop your talent by practicing a little every day, if you love improving your talent."
    • Believe and affirm that they can be all they were meant to be, and they will be. Tell them to try to work for what they want, and to not accept the routine or mundane things of unbelief.
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    Don't be overly critical of each thing one says and does.
    • Show patience. Remember while they are small, that they are not capable of nearly as much as you are.
    • If you are too harsh with them, they will fear and then learn to hate you. Maybe they won't when they are little, but watch out for the teenage years. You reap what you sow, so if you sow criticism and anger, you will reap criticism and anger.
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    Show interest in their life, but not clinging to them. Let them have choices and then expect them to change their minds from time to time. Encourage them to develop continuity, perseverance.
    • Show interest in what they are doing, in their hobbies, in their friends.
    • Listen. You may be able to keep them out of a lot of bad behaviors and trouble, if you would listen and then listen some more. Communication needs to go both ways. Listen to them about their lives more often.
    • They won't care what you know, until they know that you care. So show that you care, and then they will be more open to your giving them advice.
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    Remember that any kindness you show to your child now, will be given back to you when you are older.
    • Often times parents who throw their kids in childcare -- later in life, get thrown in an old folks home by those kids.
    • However you want them to treat you when you are old, treat them that way now when they are young.
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    Don't believe or excuse negative reports from others about your child but never ignore the possibilities.
    • Don't let people gossip to you about them. But listen to them first. You might learn of a problem area that needs attention. Then always stick up for your child.
    • Their teachers may have critical things to say about them. Listen and ignore them. The doctor might. Ignore it. Whatever things are good and true -- think on those things.
    • Don't listen to anyone that might say they have ADD or ADHD. Those labels really mean that a child is not encouraged enough to learn. You as the parent need to find ways to engage them in interesting reading and learning. It is your job as the parent to mold them into a model and respectable citizen of society. Don't medicate them to fix a problem that you could fix by being there for them more.
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    Go to their sports games and practice with them, if possible, between times, or research and suggest new, but doable, techniques.
    • Cheer them on. Encourage them in every extracurricular activity that they do.
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    Don't neglect your children.
    • Don't ignore them. If they mess up in any area of life, tell them they will do better next time. That is called positive affirmation, and includes saying "I don't only t-h-i-n-k you can learn to do/be that someday, I expect you to, if that is what you want to do." -- and "You'll have to decide to study, and then work for what you want!"
    • Focus more on the positives, build on what they did right in a game or on an essay, etc., rather than pointing out only the things they need to improve.
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    Thank God everyday for the beautiful children that you have.
    • Realize that there are many couples who are unable to have kids due to infertility issues.
    • Thank God for the things that they are good at and for how healthy they are.
    • Have faith that they have a bright future and that God has amazing plans ahead for them with a future and a hope!
    • "...'I know the plans that I have for you,' declares the LORD, 'plans for good and not for calamity, plans to give you a future and a hope. Then you will call upon Me, and come and pray to Me, and I will listen to you.' ", (Jeremiah 29:11).
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    Ask relatives and friends to encourage your child as much as possible. Get relatives to come to their games or concerts, etc. Ask them to say different things like: "You did a good job. Hey, you're getting older, bigger, smarter,...", etc.
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    Encourage them to have dreams for their life and help them to believe in those dreams.
    • Tell them every day, "God has something for you to do that nobody else can do. No one can play your part."


  • Remember that no matter how angry you get with your child, don't flip out on them. It will cause them to not respect you and not trust you. It could traumatize them and scar them for years, for life even. They might grow up fearing anger more than they should and so might have a hard time expressing anger in a healthy, balanced way.
  • Play children's board games with draw-cards to read to challenge your kids. This is a great way to bond as a family.
  • Hug them often and smile at them. Don't come off as an old grumpy person.
  • Try to be consistent with them so they know what to expect.
  • Spank your child, with moderation as in all good things. Only do it in extreme circumstances, such as to impress upon the child's understanding how dangerous behavior may be, such as playing in the street.
  • Teach children God's laws as wisdom to guide them, such as: "The rich rules over the poor, And the borrower becomes the lender's slave..." (Proverbs 22:7) -- "But when your neighbor becomes poor and you do loan as much as you can afford, then do not ask interest, enslave or throw the debtor out of his house or garnish the wages..., but let him live among you as if a stranger (one who is in need)." (paraphrase of Leviticus 25:35--37)
  • See also the Category:Parenting -- Category:Emotional Health --and-- Category:Goal Realization & Problem Solving, among others,...


  • Don't be too gullible when it comes to your children or think that they are perfectly fine. They might be doing a lot more than you realize. Like getting into trouble.
  • Be careful of whose houses you let them go to and make sure the parents are good.
  • This is somewhat comical, but put an alarm on their window so they can't sneak out at night.
  • Here are some general warnings about raising kids:
  • Monitor their computers and put blocks on certain websites. You can buy software to do this.
  • Help them learn early on that there are consequences for their actions.
  • Persuade. Don't force them to go to Sunday School every time, because when they are older, they may never choose to go church at all. They will resent having to do such things they really don't want to do.
  • Encourage them to eat healthy, so that they will live long and prosper.
  • Take your kids on a tour of your local jail, and state or federal prison and ask the guys to tell them stories of what not to do and how hard their lives are.

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