How to Handle an Interfaith Wedding

It’s perfectly normal to fall in love with a woman or man of different religion. Love knows no caste, religion or bars. The language of love unites people together in marriage, but communities and traditions often times make such marriages a difficult experience. There are many aspects to consider when you organize an interfaith wedding.

Steps

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    Discuss your beliefs and ideas with your fiance(e). Have a deep and clear perception that you two have different religious beliefs and now, as you decide to come together, both will have to accept and respect each other’s religion. You have to be firm and positive about your relationship. Only then you can convince others of its survival.
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    Have 2-3 get-togethers before the wedding day and invite close family from both sides. This will give them adequate time to get acquainted with each other and talk candidly about the wedding ceremony and rituals.
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    Show your respect towards their beliefs. You can accomplish this by assigning two officiates to do the ritual. The ceremony would be performed in both religions and would certainly please the respective communities. This step would assure your fiance(e) and his or her family that you respect their religion and beliefs.
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    Have the wedding officiant(s) and close family members attend the rehearsal to avoid any last minute confusion. Both sides can view the performance of rituals and point out any shortcomings or discuss disagreement on any traditions.
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    Invite people from both sides with equal respect and courtesy. Discuss the invitations with your fiance(e) beforehand.
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    Organize music and entertainment keeping both religions in mind. Music is the essence of the mood and celebration at weddings. If you can prepare a fusion performance for the event, it would really surprise your family and guests.
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    Talk about your wedding vows with your fiance(e) very clearly, since both of you should mutually agree on the vows.
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    Mix it up. Have two officiants to represent each of your faiths.
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    Call in non-denominational clergy.
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    Double up. Have two separate ceremonies.
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    Be civil. Have your wedding performed by the Justice of the Peace.
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    Ask a family member to officiate.

Tips

  • Go for premarital interfaith counseling. Your religion and customs are budding with you since childhood. It will not be easy to accept new beliefs easily. Counseling gives you a foretaste of questions you will face in the near future of your marriage such as festivals, child bearing, the religion followed by your children, moral responsibilities, etc. Ignoring these subjects will not expel them from your life, but considering them will perhaps guide you appropriately in your relationship.

Warnings

  • Do NOT attempt to "bribe" your fiance(e)'s family by putting more emphasis on their religion! This is your joint wedding ceremony, and it's interfaith, NOT partial faith!

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Categories: Weddings | Interfaith Relationships