wikiHow to Find Healing in Forgiveness

It has been discovered that people who carry a lot of resentments, hatred and bitterness suffer from psychosomatic illnesses and disorders. Psychosomatic illnesses come from both mind and emotional stressors that take their toll and manifestations on the physical body. There had been misconceptions that psychosomatic illnesses are believed to be imaginary but were proven real and should be treated quickly as with other illnesses. Such illnesses are manifested through mental and emotional breakdown, cardiac problems resulting to heart disease and elevated blood pressure resulting to strokes and a lot more. Man's strained relationships require healing and one of the most effective strategy is to find healing through forgiveness. 'Forgiveness' has unique ways and wonderful secrets to follow in the healing process. Let me share them with you and may you find your peace and freedom from resentments, hatred and bitterness.


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    Find healing by seeking forgiveness from God. This requires humility to admit one's fault and to be needy for God's help and healing. People with too much confidence to oneself and pride miss the great chance of finding healing and walk a life of freedom through clean conscience. Ask God's forgiveness and embrace it, by then you're more than halfway towards complete forgiveness.
    • Proverbs 3:5, "Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding;"
    • First John 1:9, "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness."
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    Find forgiveness by releasing and seeking to be forgiven by the person or people that has hurt you. This can be unconditional because some people have hard time realizing the importance of finding healing through forgiveness. We choose to forgive even without being asked to forgive.
    • James 5:16, "Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed."
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    Embrace healing through restitution. Humility before God will guide one to be humble before others. Have we offended someone ? Find the challenge of asking forgiveness through restitution. Restitution describes the act of restoration, making amends and correcting a wrong act that was done.Restitution clears the conscience of any cobwebs by clearing away guilt. It is so essential in the process of having complete healing since this gives freedom to ones mind and conscience. Restitution is unconditional. It has to take place whether the offended party is receptive of any restitution act done or not. We have to recognize human individuality and uniqueness in responding to situations. Sometimes even the offender refuses to ask forgiveness to us but then let us forgive them inside our hearts.
    • Matthew 5:23-24, “Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother or sister has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift."
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    Find forgiveness by forgiving yourself. Some people are stunted with life. They live life imprisoned on their self-made prison cells. They refuse to step out for they are very fearful to face life squarely. To forgive oneself means to admit your shortcomings and stupidity and take responsibility of the consequences. We have to be grateful that with the forgiveness from God also comes forgiveness for our very own selves.
    • Hebrew 10:17, "Then he adds: 'Their sins and lawless acts I will remember no more.'"
    • Jeremiah 31:34, "No longer will they teach their neighbor, or say to one another, ‘Know the LORD,’ because they will all know me, from the least of them to the greatest,” declares the LORD. “For I will forgive their wickedness and will remember their sins no more.”
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    Forgiveness is a process, it keeps on and on. Finding healing through forgiveness is a process. Memories flash back, pain floods in and sometimes they bring back the same reactions one has had at the moment when the pain was inflicted. It seems forgiveness isn't taking place and we lose faith. Forgiveness takes place when we choose to release forgiveness each time we remember and ask for forgiveness each time the devil berates us with contempt over and over again.
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    Life is a choice, choose to ask forgiveness and release forgiveness to take hold of your emotional healing. Life is just great when we see beauty around us. When we get to appreciate the essence of simple things and learn the grandest wisdom in every life's situation.
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