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How to Fight (Girls)

Boys aren't the only ones who get in fights: girls fight too! If you know you're going to have to fight another girl and you're scared, let wikiHow help. It's always better to try to find a peaceful solution to the problem but if you can't then you need to be able to defend yourself.


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    Try to find a different solution first. You should always talk to a parent or teacher before fighting. Try to find another way to solve your problems that doesn't include violence. We know that you don't want to seem lame to the other girls, but if the other girls only like you for being tough then they don't really like you at all. They aren't your true friends and they never could be.
    • Fighting can have lots of bad consequences for you. If you really, seriously hurt the other girl, even if she started the fight, you could go to jail or get in trouble with the police. This can happen even by accident, so it's better to steer away if you can.
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    Never fight on school grounds. Plan to have the fight outside the school grounds. Fighting on school grounds could further increase your chances of getting suspended or even expelled. However its important to note that even if you choose to fight away from the school, you are still very likely to get into trouble with your school for fighting as it is an unacceptable way to behave and solve a problem.
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    Always have backup. Chances are if the girl is a good fighter, her friends will jump in so you need some to do the same. This can keep you from getting seriously hurt. With a few friends in tow, the fight will probably stay smaller, since no one will let it get really out of control. Just make sure to tell your friends that you want to keep the fighting to a minimum. They're there to protect you only!
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    Never throw the first punch! You want to avoid fighting if at all possible. Argue with her or try to talk her down: whatever you do just don't be the first one to start fighting. If you hold your ground and don't say anything too angering, you might not have to fight at all.
    • Try using dialogue (talking) to shut the fight down. Say something like, "I'm tired of all this arguing. It's not going to change anything. Can't we just stay out of each others way?" or "Is this really going to fix this problem? I want us both to walk away happy."
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    Look for weaknesses. While she's talking, stay calm and assess how you think she's vulnerable. If she's shorter - bear down on her. If she's taller go for her legs and her midsection. If she has long hair grab a handful and pull her head down so she can't see.
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    Lean into a punch. You should angle your head if you see she's about to punch you so that your forehead or top of your head gets hit instead. This will hurt her hands and could help in discouraging further punching. Furthermore, it will do less damage to your body. Your skull is very strong!
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    Turn to the side to avoid stomach punches. If she's trying to punch your stomach, move your body so that she hits your side instead. This will protect your body and keep you form getting too badly injured.
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    Kick if you fall to the ground. Absolutely avoid getting on the ground but if you fall to the ground, kick at your attacker to keep them away from you. Look for an opportunity to get up but don't turn away from the other girl. Roll into a ball to protect yourself if this doesn't work out.
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    Avoid hitting with your fist. Most people hold their fist wrong and you can end up hurting yourself. Instead, hold your fist in one hand and hit with your elbow.
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    Aim for where it hurts. Try to hit in sensitive areas if you're going to hit. The chest, stomach, face, knees, feet and hands are all easy to hurt.
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    Let her tire herself out. Dodge as many hits as you can. Let her move and keep her moving. This will make her tired and help end the fight sooner.
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    Use a disabling move. You want to get her onto the ground to try to bring the fight to an end. The best way to do this is to use her own body against her. Grab her pinky, and pull it back towards her elbow. Her arm will follow. Guide the arm so that it goes behind her back and then push her down to the ground. Place your knee at the center of her back and hold her arm in place until she calms down.


  • Wear something underneath your shirt so that if the first shirt rips you will have something on.
  • Wear leggings or athletic shorts. It can be tough to move in tight jeans and leggings are harder to get a hold of.
  • Make sure your hair is arranged so your opponent has nothing to grab. If you have long hair, put it in a bun in the middle of your head out of reach.
  • If you do lose a piece of clothing - just keep fighting. Embarrassment is one thing, getting beat up is quite another.
  • Have your feet apart so if the girl pushes you, you will be steady.
  • Never put your hands on a girl first. If you two get caught the teacher or boss will think she started the fight.
  • If you don't care about getting Into trouble then hit first. Make sure the hit is strong. If you let her hit you first you don't know how strong that hit could be and it can knock you out.
  • Wait until the girl stands up, if she is sitting and you fight her it will look like a scared move.
  • NEVER let her get to close if you have that feeling something is about to go down or she is about to hit you then go ahead and hit or do the other one and let her hit you first if you care about getting into trouble.
  • Always have your back facing the wall (if there is one) so no one can sneak up on you.
  • When a girl pulls your hair don't back up but go towards her, if she's smaller, go for a tackle where you'll end up on top, if she's stronger or taller then go for her crotch.
  • If you want her to fall, lock legs with her and drive your knees upward.
  • Consider cutting long hair short.
  • Protect your neck she may try to choke you.
  • If you're a girl who wears a weave, make sure it's fixed tightly and if it's not tight then your opponent will probably pull your weave.
  • Block your face in order to avoid your facial features from being harmed whilst fighting.
  • Make sure you have people with you just in case anyone decides to jump in during the fight which could further increase the likelihood of you getting seriously hurt.
  • When she punches you can duck down and kick her in the legs. Try to avoid conflict in the first place.
  • If she has a weapon, do a roundhouse kick aiming for her hand. It will knock the weapon out of her hand, and her hand will be too hurt for her to pick it up again. You can then proceed to throw/kick the weapon out of her reach.
  • If she manages to pin you face up, and she's straddling your waist, bump her with your hip bones really hard. It should knock her a little off balance temporarily, and then you can proceed to knock her back using your lower body and legs.


  • Getting into a fight is not the answer to solving any problems you are having with another person. Not only do you risk getting seriously hurt, you also risk facing expulsion from your school or college, or/and a criminal record, neither of which will help your future.

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