How to Drag Yourself out of the Mud

All of us have been or are in situations that make us think, "How am I going to get out of this?". May be you feel that there is no solution, or no way out? If you're telling yourself that "there is no way I'm able to get out of this", this article is for you.

Being 'stuck in mud' is a time in your life where you are focused on only your immediate problems or situation. Follow this guide to help you get out of the mud.

Steps

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    Tell yourself this is a learning step and "although I might not feel on top right now, I will eventually pull through".
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    Remind yourself that your decision to act comes first. Nobody can get you out of your situation without you first helping yourself. You need to take the first step in either seeking help or in persevering on your own.
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    Remember that nobody else should take blame for your situation but yourself. Whatever you do, you must take responsibility for the consequences and pain of your situation. Taking this burden upon yourself is the first step in seeking forgiveness from others and from yourself.
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    Learn to overcome your own fears. You might want to run away, escape, and just give up, but you know this isn't the answer. May be you've even considered suicide as an easy way out? That isn't the answer either. Don't be afraid to try new things and get outside of your comfort zone to solve your problems. It is easy to be trapped by our own fears and anxieties. Avoid making this mistake by knowing that you're not limited by your current situation. There is always help for those who seek it.
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    Treat your situation as an opportunity to learn from mistakes. When you're over it, and if you've been in other bad situations, you'll have a list of things you've learned. You'll be stronger for it, and able to apply what you've learned to your future.
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    Think of solutions. Keep positive and brainstorm all of your options, no matter how silly or impossible they seem. Narrow this list of solutions down over time to help you make a decision. Pick only the positive ones that help you and/or others, while eliminating the ones that involve fleeing or retreating from your own problems. If you need help finding solutions, ask others what they would do in your situation. However, take all advice with a grain of salt; gauge their advice against what you know to be morally and ethically correct.
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    Act upon your well thought-out solutions. If it seems appropriate, you may want to act upon multiple solutions within your list. Treat this as a challenge to improve yourself, improve your life, and help others in the process.

Tips

  • If it helps, feel free to cry or express your emotions in your own, personal way. Sometimes "getting it all out" can be very therapeutic. Be careful not to "vent" to others unless they're willing to listen and comfort.
  • Concentrate on being positive and finding positive solutions.

Warnings

  • Be careful of all the negative advice from people. Don't take advice simply because it is given. Know what is right and wrong to both you and the society you live in, be it legally, ethically, or morally.
  • Be careful who you trust. Trusting the wrong people or trusting in the wrong things may make your situation worse. Trust those who offer morally sound advice and have only your best interests in mind.

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Categories: Managing Negative Feelings