How to Deal With Parting from a Close Friend

Have you ever had a very close friend whom you were very good to for a long time, and then just lost that friend not from death, but due to an unintentional upset? Who then decides to put an end to your friendship? It's a very painful experience, and can be very hard to fix the broken friendship. It's no fun being forced to say goodbye either. Well, you can try to sort things out ...


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    Determine why you're breaking up:
    • If your friend feels that it's because the times you spent with each other were one-sided and not mutual, (as in, not sharing similar interests) then try to give them more of a chance to participate in discussions.
    • If your friend feels that it's just not going to work out between the two of you, then try to find out why.
    • If your friend knows that you don't intend to be a bother, then try to understand and discuss any problems you have.
    • If your friend still hasn't taken any of the above into account and is about to ultimately break off the friendship with you, then please don't be enraged or start crying. This only makes it harder for both of you.
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    Take the time to make a proper goodbye as the two of you part ways very quietly.
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    Wait a good, long time (around 2 months) and then try explaining everything to your old friend to the best of your ability. You may want to get back together as friends. It can be done via e-mail, IM, over the phone, or in person.


  • If you try to make up with your old friend, listen very well to what is said, and don't argue in a mean way.
  • If the break-up has hurt you badly, then take some time to be by yourself and let out all your sorrow. Don't be too long with it, though.
  • If your old friend does not want to talk to you anymore, (i.e. saying "it's all over now") then this is when you must truly get off that case for good and try to find a "real" friend.
  • Never let this break-up bother you too much. Find something fun to do in place of "moping about" and move on with your life.
  • If it still bothers you, then try discussions with family, other friends, or counsellors, but don't be a nuisance.
  • If this friend has any siblings who are also friends of yours, then talk it out with them and explain (or find) what went wrong. However, do not try to use them as a bridge to your old friend.


  • Do not try to control the situation by being angry with your old friend for breaking up with you. Approach it very slowly and calmly. You're trying to be a better friend, after all.
  • Don't go on too much about the loss of your old friend to others. This can grate on people's nerves before you know it.

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