How to Deal With Online Homophobia

People online can be jerks, there's no doubt about it. With nothing but a screen and a made-up username to mask their identity, these kinds of people run amok with insults they wouldn't dare to say to your face. Despite this, their words can sting and break your heart.


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    Don't take it personally. Whatever their problem is, it is not your fault. They've constructed a false image in their head about who you are based on their own preconceived notions on homosexuality and what it means to be a homosexual, and they are acting that way towards you based on their false image.
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    Realize that they may be a troll. These people are only posting to get a rise out of the community, and aren't really serious about what they're posting. Don't let them get a rise out of you.
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    Avoid debating with the homophobic user if no good will come of it. Sometimes, people are so set in their ways, that they will just refuse to see your side of things. They refuse to see that you do not fit their image of what it means to be a homosexual, and arguing with them won't do much but spur on more hateful remarks and make you angry or hurt.
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    Be patient with someone who is trying to change. If someone is trying to change their feelings of homophobia, try to be patient with them. Remind them when they're falling back onto their stereotypes, and if they're willing to listen and see your side, explain your side using calm language.
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    Block the user and report them to the administrators if possible. Most online communities have rules against personal attacks, and they also have features that allows users to block or ignore another user.
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    Log off for awhile. When things get too heated, just log off and do something else. Get your mind off it, and don't let those words follow you.
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    Seek support from friends or a community of people who experience the same thing. People who support you can be a tremendous help when it comes to keeping your self-esteem intact in the face of personal attacks.


  • Remember that what they're saying comes from a false image that they formed in their head, and doesn't reflect the real you. So, don't take it as an attack against the real you, because it simply isn't; they would most likely act the same way and say the same things if you were a completely different person.
  • It's a lot easier to be vicious online than it is in real life. The internet brings out the worst in people, many of whom are just looking to blow off steam. Just remember that, along with the first tip.


  • It's hard to be patient with someone that harbors negative feelings about people solely based on their sexual orientation, even if they're trying to change. However, if they are trying to change, realize that it can be hard to do if they've been pounded with that viewpoint throughout their lives.

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