wikiHow to Deal With Living in Foster Care

Have you ever been abused by a parent? Have you ever been in foster care? Have you moved from new home to new home? Need help coping? You can get through it. This article will tell you just how to get through it yourself!


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    Stop crying. It's always a good idea to let your feelings out, but there's a certain point at which you have to stop. Sit up, stop crying, and face some facts. This is your life now, and there's no changing that. You can be upset for a little while, but eventually you should come to face reality.
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    Don't think negatively about yourself. You aren't a bad person and you've done nothing wrong. Never think that the situation is your fault, because it's not. Don't beat yourself up thinking that you need to change or do something more. Know that no blame is being put on you.
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    Stay positive. Yes, things may seem dismal, even hopeless, but that's not necessarily true. There's a bright side to everything, no matter how dark the situation may seem. Wake up and try to find that bright side.
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    Learn to adjust to changes. Change is something everyone has to deal with at some point in our lives. There will be a lot of new changes in your life right now. Change can be good, but often it's bad. Again, try to stay positive about everything and you'll see that not all changes are horrible.
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    Try to help out as much as possible. Chores are typically a part of a child's life, and foster home isn't often an exception. Clean your room, do the dishes, take out the trash, etc. By helping out around the house, you will not only get to know the place better, but further communicate with your foster family.
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    If you have a sibling with you, use it to your advantage. They can share your pain and always cry with you.
    • If you have a younger sibling, comfort them and let them know you're always there for them. Let them cry on your shoulder. It's your job to be their supporter, and to be brave for them, and for yourself.
    • If you have an older sibling, allow them to support you, but stand up for yourself as well. Show that you are strong and can handle yourself, and that you're in this as much as he\she is.
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    Try as much as possible to get along with the family. You may not like the way your foster mother treats you like an infant, and perhaps your new foster siblings aren't the greatest. However, these people are your family now, and as they say, you can't pick your family. This includes your foster family. Be willing to compromise from time to time, and eventually you'll be treating your foster family like your real family.
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    When you have visitations, try to let your parents know just how you feel. You can choose to tell them about your foster family or not. That is entirely your choice. They are your parents, though, so never be afraid to share your feelings.


  • If you don't like the family, try talking with your social worker to see if they can work something out with you.
  • Try not to do something to where your new family will kick you out.


  • Just because you don't have an actual family and you feel like you have been left alone, doesn't mean that you should get in trouble, like doing drugs or joining a gang.

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Categories: Emotional Health and Well Being | Youth