How to Coping with Religious Proselytization

People who are not comfortable with or are endangered by you may feel compelled to conform you according to their own views and values. And, that is not only true for religion. If you do not fit into your social circle, you will find, first, that people will try to conform you according to their own views, by giving you some friendly advise at first, but when they see that it's not working, and they are losing control of the situation -- due to your defiance to follow their ways -- they will then resort to forcing you into accepting their views.


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    Consider that different individuals give importance to different aspects of their lives: The one they give importance to most is the one that they choose by which to define themselves.
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    Expect that for example to a fitness-freak it might not matter whether you are a Christian, a Jew or a Muslim, for he will be more concerned with your flabby stomach or how many push-ups you can do. He/she will be absolutely mortified, if you tell them that Oh, I don't do any exercise. They can't envision a day without exertion, and hence they will immediately set to making this right by telling you to start jogging or something.
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    Realize that, similarly, people who view religion as a major component of their lives can't stand it, if someone does not believe and express the same as they believe. Another factor that comes into play is the basic instinct that humans have as an instinct: to fear that which they don't understand. That fear can then manifest itself in different forms fleeing, anger, hate, fighting, open or secretive violence, etc.
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    Don't be known by your religion. Nod and smile and seem convivial to their beliefs.
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    Don't let people know, if religion is a big deal for you. Do not take a stand unless you want to be confronted. Be deliberate; think it through.
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    Be "smart" by accepting, cooperating, loving and being agreeable as saying: "Yes, of course; I understood that. I see what you mean. Have you thought of this?" Remember what a great teacher said:
    • "For where two or three have gathered together in My name, I am there in their midst."
    • "By this everyone will know that you are my disciples: if you love one another."


  • If you're good at something, make it work for you. If you are good at singing, sports, swimming, anything uncontroversial -- it can help you fit in, and people will start seeing you in a different light.
  • If someone asks you your views on a religious topic, just shrug your shoulders and be open to listen. Walk away when it's convenient.
  • It's okay to be defensive about your religion. It is definitely your right to speak your mind.
  • And always be nice and courteous. Proselytizing may be basically bullying, just on a whole new level.


  • BUT not to those people who just want to program you according to their thinking, they absolutely don't care about anything you have to say. They just hate your guts.
  • Don't be quick to anger, to be critical or to act out. Don't get caught in discussion which will become an argument and so on.

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