How to Build Your Young Child's Social Skills

Some children behave just the way you want them to, some just the opposite. As a parent, you should understand that children are like a piece of clean and white cloth. It is your job and responsibility to give it some color. Another way of saying this, children are innocent and you are the ones who are responsible to shape, teach and guide them to become good people in the future. You should give them proper guidance when they are still young. The following are some tips on how to introduce social skills, particularly good manners and behaviors among children.


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    Give your child some light chores to do. Children can already understand some instructions, as early as when they are 2 or 3 years of age. Giving a little work to do will make him or her learn to obey and follow instructions. Remember, this is not to make your child feel tired or sad. It is good for your child when he or she starts learning to know that helping out is a good thing to do. Example of a chore: ask your child to help tidy up the mess he or she made while playing.
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    Reward your child with positive praises. Tell them that they have done a good job afterward. Say words like Good, or Brilliant after they have done what you ask them to do. This will make them feel appreciated and acknowledged after they have done something good. Always try to avoid negative words. If your child fails to do something, tell him or her that it is okay and that he can do better next time. Always remember to avoid negative remarks.
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    Encourage good habits of saying thank you and sorry. Always say “Please” and “Thank You” where necessary. Another phrase is "I’m sorry" when he or she does something wrong. If you always practice this yourself, your child will imitate these habits. They will learn to copy what we do to them and what we do among ourselves as adults. Establishing a connection between their apology and the reason they are apologizing also helps build empathy, which is vital in good communication and interaction. You can do this by bringing their attention to the subject of their apology. You can tell them: "Do you see how sad you made your friend feel?" instead of just "Say sorry."
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    Talk to them and get them to talk back. Get them to say what they feel about anything. Have them confide their feelings about anything, by observing their reactions to the world around them and letting them know that you are open to their thoughts and feelings on any subject. They will learn to express themselves better. This practice is very good because you do not want them to keep their frustrations to themselves. This way, as an adult, you can learn to understand and handle your children better.
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    Get your child to play with other children. This is a way to break their anxiety and nervousness around people. Start with small groups. Your child will also learn to share things among friends. He/she will learn to understand that sharing is a good value and children can only understand and appreciate it with other friends.


  • Surely there are many other ways to instill good behavior in children. It is actually up to the parents to try to understand your children and guide them to be better people in the future. It is good to note that the purpose of teaching and giving our children these opportunities is not to make people say how great you are as a parent, but it is for your children to benefit for themselves when we are no longer around.

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