How to Build Confidence in Your Child

Two Methods:General AdviceFriends and Relationships

Children are extremely vulnerable, especially at young ages, and confidence does not always come naturally. It will take an equal balance of effort between the family, friends, and child him/herself to build confidence. With patience, a child can shine through!

Method 1
General Advice

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    Accept your child as he is. Confidence can not be forced out of your child. Be patient and supportive throughout as experts agree this plays a vital role in child development.
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    Encourage your child to speak in public. Public speaking may seem daunting at first, but the only way to get rid of stage fright is by mustering up the courage to get up there.
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    Smile and motivate your child if he/she talks to you. Let your child know that he/she has worth and is important. Keep reminding them how awesome they are.
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    Lead by example.. Be confident and assertive when dealing with others and your child will follow your example. Show your child what good values are.
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    Use positive reinforcement. Reward and congratulate your child when they do something good. The greater the achievement, the greater the reward should be.
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    Avoid pressuring your child. Don't press your child too hard or put their nose to the grindstone.
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    Accept any rambling or stammering. It is very important not to criticize your child for any flaws they are already aware of, as this will only lead to them being more nervous.
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    Avoid harsh punishments like spanking, caning, or long periods of grounding.
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    Avoid showing too much concern. If your child knows you worry about them actively, it will only make them less confident.

Method 2
Friends and Relationships

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    Advise your child about the value of making good friends. While this is important, don't push this point home too hard.
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    Meet your child's friends. Talk to them about your child but don't be too intrusive. There's a fine line between being helpful and being controlling.
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    Help your child meet new people. Arrange a playdate, or introduce them to your friends' children.
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    Help your child find support. There are tons of other places to get help and make up for any lost social interaction, like becoming a voracious reader, or pursuing their passions
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    Show your child what a good friend is. Find examples in your life and in your child's life. You can find good friends in TV shows, books, and everyday life. Explain to your child WHY that figure is a good friend.
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    Allow your child social freedom. Don't discourage him from meeting people you don't like. Most social interaction is helpful in building confidence.

Tips

  • Love your child. Your unconditional love can greatly boost your child's morale.
  • If you feel your child needs professional help, join a support group or arrange a consultation with a child psychologist.

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Categories: Parenting