How to Become a Relationship Coach

Three Methods:Deciding to Become a Relationship CoachChoosing a Training ProgramBuilding Your Business

With the rise of problems in relationships, the need for relationship coaches is increasing. A relationship coach is a person who helps resolve conflicts for all kinds of relationships while helping these people build stronger interpersonal skills and relationship bonds. If you are considering a new career as a relationship coach, learn what you need to do to fulfill your new goals.

Method 1
Deciding to Become a Relationship Coach

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    Decide the specific type of relationship coach you want to be. There are different types of relationship coaches. You can be a dating or marriage relationship coach. You may decide to work with family relationships, or choose to work with businesses and groups. The type of coach you decide to be will determine what skills you need to learn and how you approach your practice.[1]
    • You can choose a focus for your practice when you become a relationship counselor. You can focus on sexual and intimate relationships. You can also focus on grief counseling, divorce, or older adults. You may also decide to specialize in LGBT family and romantic relationships.
    • Other things you may decide to incorporate into your relationship coaching is communication skills, problem-solving skills, stress management, or finance skills.
    • You also may decide to become a religious affiliated counselor.
    • There are no requirements for becoming a specialized relationship coach. Some certification programs offer specializations in certain areas, such as learning how to become a Christian relationship coach.[2] If you undergo a general training program, you can tailor the information and decide to focus on a particular relationship group, such as singles, LGBT, or divorce.
    • If you have a business background, you may use that experience to become a relationship coach who focuses on corporate or professional relationships. You can use your personal experience, work experience, and life experience to help tailor your specialization.
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    Recognize the daily commitments of a relationship coach. Relationship coaches help clients who have a variety of relationship problems. You may help your clients solve problems or disputes, you may help people set goals, and you may help people learn how to be more assertive.[3]
    • Relationship coaches help couples, families, or other people in relationships set goals for the relationship. A large part of your job will be helping your clients develop goal-setting skills and follow through.
    • You will need to make sure that you continue to meet with your clients to help keep them on track and see if they are trying to achieve their goals.
    • You will also help your clients identify problems in their relationships or lives and work with them to come up with ways to solve these problems. Teaching your clients good problem solving skills will be a big part of your job.
    • You may also provide coping skills, stress management techniques, leadership skills, and time management skills.
    • You should be a source of support and encouragement for your clients.
    • You may use various techniques, such as tests or assessments, role-playing, and prioritizing exercises.
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    Determine if you want a full-time or part-time commitment. Relationship coaching can be a very versatile career. You can take on a number of clients that fits into your life. You may do it on the side to earn extra income while keeping your current job. You may decide to see a few clients a week while your kids are at school. You can also decide to do it full-time.[4]
    • You may decide to start off small with a few clients a month or each week. You can slowly build your client base and eventually do it full time.
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    Identify the level of experience you are starting at. People enter into relationship coaching from various backgrounds. Where you start may influence the type of training or extra certification that you need. If you are just starting out with no coaching or mental health training, you will start with a relationship coach training program, which teaches you a foundation and helps you obtain the needed certifications.[5]
    • If you are a therapist, minister, or other type of counseling professional, you can expand your knowledge base to add relationship counseling to your practice.
    • If you are already a life coach or other type of coach, you add a specialty in relationship coaching.
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    Understand that a relationship coach is not the same thing as a counselor. Relationship coaches and counselors or therapists are not the same thing. Coaches require no degree or certification. Counselors or therapists require years of schooling. Many counselors become relationship coaches because the professions are similar, but they are extremely different professions.[6]
    • Relationship coaches focus on active problem-solving skills, setting goals, and providing people with the tools to move forward in a healthy way. They do not try to explore the past to find the root of problems or employ therapy techniques. They also do not prescribe any kind of medication or provide medical help for mental illnesses.
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    Hire a life coach. If you are interested in becoming a relationship coach, you may want to hire a relationship coach and undergo coaching yourself. This can help provide examples of what a relationship coach does. As you watch what the person does, you can decide if this seems like it would be something you would like as a career.
    • You may want to try a couple of relationship coaches to see how different people approach their coaching sessions.

Method 2
Choosing a Training Program

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    Know there are no specific degree or certification requirements. There are no set standards, required degrees or certifications, or industry requirements to become a relationship coach. There are no requirements to meet before entering into the field. This means that you can call yourself a relationship coach without receiving any training. This also means that there are numerous certification programs available that vary in quality.[7]
    • If you are serious about becoming a relationship coach, you should find a quality program that is accredited or approved through the ICF or another professional organization.
    • You do not need any prior skills, degrees, or experiences to be a relationship coach. You can decide to become a relationship coach and learn what you need through the certification program. However, you should be comfortable talking to people and helping others with their problems since that is the core of being a relationship coach.
    • Some career-specific certifications, like a becoming a certified relationship specialist who is certified by the American Psychotherapy Association, requires a bachelor's degree in counseling. To get a certification that is recognized by a professional counseling association, such as the APA, you will have to already be a working counselor or social worker with a degree in a counseling-related field.[8]
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    Determine the type of program that fits your needs. There are a lot of different programs you can go through to get certified. Some are longer than others, some cost less, and some provide different types of certification. Before choosing a program, figure out the kinds of certification it will give you and where that certification will be accepted. Figuring out your future goals with your new relationship coach career will also help you decide the type of program you choose.
    • If you are interested in joining professional coaching organizations, networking with other relationship coaches, or getting your name listed in professional coaching databases, your certification may need to meet certain standards to be included. You may need to be certified by an ICF accredited or approved program. If you want to start a small side business, you may be able to use another certification program.
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    Decide if you want an accredited or approved program. The International Coach Federation (ICF) is the only coaching organization that accredits and approves relationship coach training programs. If you are interested in getting training from an accredited or ICF approved program, choose a program from their website. They offer multiple search criteria for you to choose from as you find a program.[9]
    • The ICF has organized their programs into three different types. Accredited coach training programs requires a minimum of 125 hours of training. The training covers ICF core competencies and the code of ethics. An accredited program requires coaching sessions where you will be observed, along with a comprehensive final exam.
    • Approved coach specific training hours is a less intensive program with a more pick and choose approach to classes and instruction. This program requires a minimum of 30 hours of training, along with coaching observations.
    • If you already have ICF credentials or basic coach training, you can do continuing coach education. This involves advanced coach training and skills that help the professional development of a coach, like business building tools or coaching assessments.
    • The different types of programs are separate programs. Accredited programs are of higher quality with a more intensive training program. Approved programs provide high quality training, but are not rigorous enough to be considered accredited.
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    Choose a program. Choosing a training program to become a relationship coach is an important, and individualized, decision. There are a lot of different programs you can choose from. The International Coach Federation (ICF) has a search option to find an ICF accredited or approved program.[10] The American Psychotherapy Association also offers courses to become a Certified Relationship Specialist.[11] There are other programs available that are not accredited through the ICF or sponsored by a national mental health organization. It is your decision whether you want to choose an ICF-approved program or choose a different certification program.
    • Do a search online and through the ICF to find a program that suits your needs and your specific interests.
    • Many relationship coaching training programs are offered through online courses, which means you can schedule a lot of the classes and sessions around your life.
    • Some relationship coaching programs are offered through coaching institutes or other institutes with in-person classes.
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    Figure out how you will pay for the training program. The cost of the training program will be determined by the program you choose and the amount of hours you undergo. Some training programs advertise special offers where you receive the training course for under $100, while other, longer courses can cost thousands of dollars.[12][13][14]
    • Many programs offer payment plans. If you are interested in a more expensive training program, call the institute to discuss payment options.
    • Before you choose a cheaper training program, make sure you research the program to determine if it will provide you with the right certification you will need to become a relationship coach.

Method 3
Building Your Business

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    Market your business. Many programs will teach you how to market yourself so you can build your business. One thing that you can do is build a website. This website will help people in your area who need a relationship coach find you.[15]
    • On your website, you need to list all of your education, qualifications, and certifications. You should also list all your relative experience.
    • Emphasize any of your specializations and areas of focus.
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    Use social media. Social media is a great way to build your brand and your business. You can put your relationship coaching business on different social media sites to help build network and professional connections.
    • You can use Facebook and Twitter to help get the word out about your new business. Encourage friends, family, and acquaintances to share your page and spread the word about the services you offer.
    • Use professional social media sites like LinkedIn to help meet other relationship coaches. Meeting other people in the field can help you make professional connections and potentially grow your business. You may also find out about professional development opportunities, relationship coaching events, and other opportunities through these sites.[16]
    • You should also try to get your name listed on relationship coaching websites. Look for national directories you can place your name so potential clients in your area can search for you.
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    Choose a price for each session. You set the amount you charge for each session. Sessions can range from $60 to $150 for a session. The amount you choose to charge may depend on various circumstances.[17]
    • At first, you may not want to charge too much since you are a new relationship coach who is trying to build a client list.
    • If you are providing coaching to single people, you may choose to charge less than couples or families.
    • The amount you charge may depend on the length of the session. Some sessions may run 45 minutes while others might last for 90 minutes. You may decide to charge more for longer sessions.
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    Build a client list. To start a career in relationship coaching, you have to take on clients. Don’t get discouraged if it takes a few weeks or months to get your business off the ground. Keep advertising on social media and placing your name on relationship coaching directories. Once you start building a client list, decide how many clients you want to take on at once. You may want to focus on a few people at first, or try to get a full-time load.
    • If you are struggling to gain new clients at first, offer reduced rates to your family and friends. Try offering reduced rates for new clients or the first ten clients who sign up for coaching sessions.
    • You may decide to offer a free introductory session. This gives someone the option of meeting and talking with you to decide if you are a good fit. This might be good for people who are hesitant to spend money to find a relationship coach they may not like or if they are nervous because you are new to the field.[18]

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