How to Be an Openly Gay Christian

Homosexuality is not a choice or a lifestyle. It is an aspect of the human person, as much a part of a person as he or she having blond or red hair. Choosing to love Christ and accepting Him as your personal savior does not demand or entail one changing his or her sexuality, just as it doesn't require the changing of one's skin tone.

Steps

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    Know that throughout the ages, wrongheaded church leaders have scapegoated individuals (including blacks and women) to further political interests that are completely contrary to the message of Christ. The fact that you have come out as gay does not mean that you cannot be a Christian.
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    If you are still struggling, find a clinical social worker who can help you work through your internalized homophobia. The hatred you have for yourself will lead you to an early grave if you don't start loving yourself now. Remember that medical associations have unanimously declared that homosexuality is a natural state and not something to be "fixed".
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    Find and confide in a close friend. It is important to have an ally who can support you on this hard journey.
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    Accept your God-given sexuality. God created you this way, so stop running from God AND your sexuality.
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    Pray for the strength to forgive those who persecute you for who you intrinsically are. Even some Christians are violently homophobic.
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    Discern whether or not and when you will come out to your friends and family. Moreover, decide when and if you will be open and honest with them about who you are. Know that this honesty will take you accepting yourself first.
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    Find a church home that is not only tolerant, but ACCEPTING of you...all of you...a place where you can grow in God's word without human judgment. (THEY DO EXIST!) Several denomination have gone on record as supporting LGBT individuals and do not hold being LGBT as barrier to the ministry or ordination. That being said, individual congregations within those denominations may still discriminate. Look for phrases like "Open and Affirming" United Church of Christ, "More Light" Presbyterians, other non-discriminating denominations include, Episcopal, Evangelical Lutheran Church of America, and the original denomination founded by and for the LGBT community the Metropolitan Community Churches MCC, as well as all the large churches in Canada in the Scandinavian countries.
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    Know that "coming out" is a lifelong process, not something that happens overnight. Forgive yourself and give yourself some slack.
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    Pray for peace, patience, and understanding in your despair. Know that this, too, shall pass.
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    Look forward to the day that children and young adults will never have to hide who they are for fear of persecution from their own religion. Be proud of who you are: a child of God and a sibling of Christ. Go forth and be a blessing for this broken world.

Tips

  • Get to the nearest bookstore and browse the gay and lesbian section. "Crisis" by Mitchell Gold is a great book to read. For teens, read "Am I Blue?" by various authors. This book provides stories for LGBT teens.

Warnings

  • If anyone hurts you in ANY way, report them!

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