How to Be a Scene Girl

Nine Methods:Making the SceneClothingPiercingMakeupHairstyleGet the MusicUse the LingoGet ConnectedBe Nice & Have Fun

So you want to be a scene girl, with the brightly-colored clothes and awesome hair? Don't worry, there are some definite ways to be that person, from changes to your wardrobe to new ways of acting and listening to the right scene music. You'll be able to bring that true you to the surface in no time!

Method 1
Making the Scene

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    Know what you're expected to be. Most "scene" girls don't call themselves scene. They're just bubbly, and have the style. They're very outgoing and have big hair most of the time.
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    When you're at a club, or a party, or at a show, the scene girls are the ones who look stunning and are bold, over-confident, and at times random.
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    However, if you're not comfortable with standing out, you could aim to be the cute, shy scene girl.

Method 2

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    Dress like a scene girl. Clothes are very important, and you must dress the part in order to be successful in this venture.
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    Wear flats like ballet shoes and even metallic/designer flats. Tutu-like skirts are a must. Slip-on Vans are very popular among scene kids, as well as most other Vans. (Warning: wearing Vans too much if you aren't a skater could result in you being called a poser.) You could also try some checkered or colorful shoelaces.
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    Skinny jeans. Dark ones such as black and torn are good, but things like bright neon colors, leopard, zebra or checkered are good too.
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    Tight fitting, graphic tees are a must. You have to have at least 3 of these. Anything with cute monsters, fun sayings or just cool stuff works. Don't buy just black. Scene is a mix of black and neon colors. Wear any pattern you want. Animal print, checkers, plaid, stripes - anything that describes your personality.
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    Wear merchandise from Hello Kitty, Gloomy Bear, Care Bears, Elmo, etc. Brand tees are a must. Colorful skinny jeans, tutus, jean skirts, and Vans and Converse are awesome. Wear cool leggings with bold colors or stripes. Leg warmers too.
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    Wear bright random T-shirts with funky designs on them. Or you could go with the plain bold colour like red. Some very scene designs are: Alice in Wonderland, stars, hearts, lightning, skulls, bats, Anything to do with bands or childish stuff like ice cream and lollipops.
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    Cartoon characters are very popular. Pokémon, Power Rangers, Keroppi, and especially Hello Kitty are all big parts of scene style. Printed T-shirts with cartoon characters or cute pictures on them are a must.
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    Get a gray hoodie, and wear it all the time with your hood up.
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    Pyramid stud belts, and classic white belts are good.
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    Huge sunglasses are a must, and the bigger the better. The newest edition to the scene girls sunnies are the old fashioned "cop" style sunnies (Ray-Ban Aviators). Horn-rimmed glasses with no lenses are super-popular in the scene world, and they look super cute too.
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    Over-sized pearl necklaces or other long necklaces are a must. There are a number of ways you can wear them that will make you look like a mature young person.
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    Remember all those kiddie bracelets that you had when you were five? It's time to dig them out from under your bed. Don't wear too may though - you want people to see your arms.

Method 3

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    Get piercings if you like. They are automatically considered scene. So go for it as piercings are very popular among the scene kids.
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    Septum, Monroe, Snakebites, Spiderbites, Angelbites and Browbreakers are acceptable piercings; since your ears will probably be hidden under your voluminous hair you can either wear big earrings or none at all. You can try pearl earrings for a dash of preppy style. Gauges are also popular among scene girls.

Method 4

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    Wear bright eye makeup. Pink, purple, blue, green, and red would do just fine. Remember to use black/silver/blue eyeliner. The makeup can be plain black eyeliner depending on how scene you would like to be. Do not go to overboard with your black cause you could come off as an emo. Just some eyeliner maybe a little thicker then usual is accepted. It is also scene to add a little design to your makeup, such as wings. There are loads of different colours of eyeshadow you could use, but black or bright neon are very scene. Although you can also go for the clean, pretty scene girl look with just lots of mascara and some pretty eyeshadow.

Method 5

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    Get a new hairstyle, but keep it classy. The most important thing you should do with your hair is part it to the side, with bangs sweeping in front of your face instead. Little girl clips and dying your hair multiple colors are the classic style, but new styles are emerging, such as brunette Scene hair which I think is amazing! Also,you don't have to have long hair to be scene just tease the top of your hair and put your bangs to the side.
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    Short, choppy layers are very scene.
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    The scene mullet is popular, and is seen sported primarily by Asian scene girls.
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    A hairstyle that is quickly becoming popular with scene kids is straight hair with bangs. It is very simple to do if you want something not too extreme. You want long straight hair, of any color, and bangs that go straight across your forehead hanging in front of your eyes some.
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    Try using a straightener. They sell for very cheap at most stores. Straighten your hair so it doesn't have any waves, and then make it look like it's layered. Your bangs can either be off to the side, of hanging down straight over your eyes.
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    Another classic scene style that will not turn heads as fast, and therefore is more acceptable to sport around your parents and other non-scene people, is tying the back of your hair in a ponytail and allowing chunks of hair to fall down where your sideburns would be.
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    Slightly long hair with ultra layers and choppiness right at the ear, below the ear slightly, or above the ear is considered extreme scene.
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    If you want, you could clip in hair bows with bright colors, headbands with skulls or bows, or skull hair clips.
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    Color your hair. Dye it black or platinum blond. Or you can do an unusual or rare color like red. If you go completely black be careful, because you could come off as an emo. So if you go black put some neon colored chunks in it. Any other dark color will do (maroon, purple, or red). You can also have dark chocolate brown hair (it works just as well).
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    Even brunettes can be scene without dying their hair any more than blond highlights. Extreme colors have gradually become more popular so don't be afraid to try a risky move.

Method 6
Get the Music

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    Feel free to listen to just about whatever you want; after all, the scene culture was originally based off of music. To get you started, here are a few genres and bands that are commonly liked among scene kids:
    • Metalcore/post-hardcore/electronicore/melodic metalcore/Deathcore: Asking Alexandria, Escape The Fate, Black Veil Brides (first album), Attack Attack!, Suicide Silence, Bring Me The Horizon, A Day To Remember, D.R.U.G.S, Pierce The Veil and Of Mice and Men.
    • Pop-punk/Powerpop: All Time Low, Forever the Sickest Kids, Metro Station, Mayday Parade, Panic!At The Disco, Fall Out Boy, HelloGoodbye, A Rocket to the Moon, The Rocket Summer, We Are The In Crowd, Hey Monday, acoustic: Never shout never!, Stephen Jerzak, Chase Coy, Bright Eyes.
    • Christcore (all christian-based): Norma Jean, The Chariot, For Today, Haste the Day, August Burns Red, Impending Doom, As I Lay Dying, The Devil Wears Prada, Mychildren Mybride, Skillet, Thousand Foot Krutch, Red, Demon Hunter, Pillar.
    • Electro / Crunkcore: Blood on the Dance Floor, Scene Kidz, Breathe Carolina, Brokencyde, Dot Dot Curve, The Medic Droid, Jeffree Star, 1-800-Zombie, Dropping a Popped Locket, Mindless Self Indulgence.
    • Dubstep: Most think that Dubstep is Electro, but it's not. Check out local DJs! Skrillex, Rusko, Skream, Caspa, Borgore.
    • Alternative / Indie: If you really want Alternative music, check out British artists. Phoenix, Death Cab For Cutie, Coldplay, MGMT, Iron & Wine, Muse, Adele(Be careful here she is on the radio, though many alternative artists are being displayed again), Blue Foundation, Florence and The Machine.
    • You could also download the music program Spotify , and 'star' your favorite tunes. From there, click on 'radio', and then select one of your favourite artists. It will show you some similar bands that you may not have heard of yet. You can explore the genres tabs, also on 'radio'. You can find all sorts of music that you might like.

Method 7
Use the Lingo

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    Use scene lingo, and adopt certain words into your vocabulary such as "hella", "rad", "stellar", "pimp", "hot", "dank,", "The sex", etc. Hip-hop slang is also popular on the scene.

Method 8
Get Connected

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    Become active on social-networking websites. Start out with, of course, MySpace and/or Facebook.
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    Add as many people as you can on MySpace, but save your Facebook for people that you know personally. After that, try branching out to other sites that tend to be "scene-popular", such as Twitter, Stickam,, Buzznet,, and Model Mayhem.
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    Try sitemodeling. This is where you can "model" for different "agencies" run by other people, and it can earn you some major scene points. You can often find these sites as profiles on Facebook and Myspace. After a while, you can even go elite and apply for the elite agencies.
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    Add a cute, simple background to your page (preferably something like Hello Kitty or a Victorian wallpaper), upload a few flattering pictures of yourself, make a playlist of some of your favorite music, and send friend requests to other scene kids. Having a catchy screenname, although totally optional, will also raise your scene-point quota.
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    YouTube is also an important part of social networking. Have an account and maybe make some videos on "How to Style Your Scene Hair," etc., because they are becoming increasingly popular in the scene world and will increase your scene image. If you become more popular on YouTube, you could even start a video blog about anything you like.

Method 9
Be Nice & Have Fun

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    Be really nice to everyone you meet. Scene girls often come off as rude teens. Most people would be pleasantly surprised if a scene kid came up to them and was super nice, because most people immediately think that Scene kids are going to be arrogant and full of themselves because of the stereotype.
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    People may confuse you to be Emo but that's okay just correct them. Be sure you are very peppy sweet and happy. Don't act like you hate everything. Hating everything is not very Scene-like.


  • Be confident and don't let anybody bring you down! You can't please everyone! It's your body, your face, and your life. Do what you want, and don't care about other people! It already shows that you're better than them if they care so much to comment.
  • Be honest, but not mean. Do what you want and embrace your flaws.
  • Don't let anyone call you emo, because that is a different culture altogether.
  • Basically, being scene is about being unique. Create your own style...have fun with it. But follow the basic guidelines of this page, otherwise you will not be considered scene... just weird.
  • Wear little bows in your hair. Most of them should not be '80s big( for when you want to dress extreme) or microscopic small(for simple outfits or things you have to dress up for).
  • If your hair isn't very long or your parents don't want you dying it, try buying extensions that match, or are colorful.
  • Don't hang out with your scene friends and tell them how pretty they are and how you wished you looked like them... no one likes a suck-up, and they'll think you are just telling them that because your fishing for compliments.
  • Take an interest in music. Scene kids adore their music, so listen to some bands and maybe carry an iPod/mp3 player with you regularly.
  • Buy a camera. This is usually the best way for scene girls to take pictures, as the quality is a lot better than a phone or webcam.
  • You can have a photographer friend take high quality pictures of you to emphasize your originality, or take pictures from your camera phone at shows or parties to show the world your scene entourage. Experiment with timers, mirrors, Photoshop filters, themed pictures, and whatnot.
  • Scene hair mostly is choppy, or has a fringe. If you like long hair, layer it and streak/ bleach some parts. Even better if you add little girl clips and headbands, plus choppy side bangs.
  • You can buy everything you need at vintage and second hand stores. Wear as much fake vintage stuff as you can find and heaps of mass produced plastic necklaces.
  • Try to make some new friends that have the same interests as you, as long as you make sure you don't forget your old friends.
  • Offbeat dancing in public is widely accepted as scene.
  • Take pictures of your "scene entourage" with a good camera phone but never use that picture as a default. (Facebook, Vampirefreaks, etc.)
  • Audrey Kitching, Jeffree Star and Zui Suicide are some of the original scene royalty but don't copy what they've done, use bits and pieces to make your own.
  • While MySpace was a staple of the scene, it is unpopular now. Use other websites such as Facebook, Twitter, Formspring, (Leda Monster Bunny introduced this to scene kids.),, and Xanga. Some scenesters operate on the down-low with only a, emphasizing their obsession with music, but this isn't going to work if you want to be popular because you will have to do a lot of social networking to get known.
  • Expand your love for music by going to Raves. Though you might go to raves, you don't have to participate in drugs!! It would help to have some glow sticks, though.
  • Avoid poseurs at all costs. They will bring down your image.
  • Study up on all the original scene queens (i.e. Audrey Kitching, Kiki Kannibal, Jeffree Star). If you're hanging out with your scene friends and they ask you if you like Brookelle Bones, make sure you have an answer or you will be immediately considered a poseur.
  • Frequently go to shows with friends to see local bands. Only the uninitiated refer to events with music as concerts.
  • MySpace can make or break you. Get an original layout: pre-made ones are marginally scene, try to learn basic CSS or search MyGen on Google and make your own original layout. Bulletin trains are an option for those who want many MySpace friends, and themed trains are very scene. Good backgrounds are animal furs, vintage lace things in black and gray, a gun pattern, etc.
    • The stereotypical modern scene MySpace name usually involves your first name, a second name involving fashion, gore, or music. Find last names used by Scene QUEENS (Twigg VIOLENCE, Zui SUICIDE,HAMMY horror, Kiki KANNIBAL, daniGORE, Lexi LUSH) some sort of symbol, and brackets full of letters representing the many crews and exclusive MySpace groups that you are part of. Other ways to make your name scene is to not capitalize the first letter, follow your given name by a period and an exclamation point (or just a period) or to follow your uncapitalized name by a trademark (TM) symbol. Alliteration (repetition of the first consonant sound in a phrase) is a key method you might want to consider when creating your scene name (for example, Raquel Reed or Cory Kennedy). Doing this can make your name more memorable and can increase your popularity among other scene kids. You can also use odd name spellings or take advantage of an odd name you all ready have for something really unique. Example: Rebehk Exks Zimmy.
  • Scene kids like to think they are random. Don't overdo it. No one wants to talk to someone who screams "Purple hippos!" every 10 seconds.


  • Also don't care for what others think. It's who you want to be, not who they want you to be
  • If you do lose friends during your change, remember this: if they can't accept you for who you want to be, then they aren't your real friends.
  • Remember that when you go out in public, you'll probably get a lot of people staring because of the way you look. That's fine, as long as you're comfortable with it. Before you become scene, make sure you have the self confidence not to care what people say.
  • People might not like your new look. If they don't like you anymore, ignore them. They are not good for you if they don't like you just because you changed your style.
  • You will most likely be judged and insulted, but if you're a true scene girl you won't care.
  • Too much hairspray in your hair will make it stiff, hard to remove, and look a little gross.
  • Remember: do not change all of a sudden, make your changes gradual, or you will be called a poser, or a scene wannabe. The typical time it should take to change depends on what you were before, but anywhere from 3 months to about a year should be okay. Taking advantage of summer vacation is also a good time to make changes.
  • You may be called goth, but correct them, because you're not. People who mistake scene for goth just don't know the difference.
  • Try not to spend too much money on your scene look. Clothes and extensions can get very expensive.
  • Not a lot of people will understand the difference between "emo" and "scene" make sure they know that you're scene but don't spend hours explaining the difference. Never say, "I'm not emo, I'm scene." Remember, many scene kids don't even consider themselves to be scene. So, if you push the fact that you are scene you might be taken as a poseur.
  • Remember: if you dye your hair too much you will damage it and may mess up its current color. Do not use black hair dye all over your hair if it is light blonde, maybe just do the tips, roots or even have low-lights in it. If you really must dye your hair every second week (really, don't dye it that much!), or just frequently, condition your hair regularly (but don't use a silicon-based one right before you want to tease it, as it makes the hair thicker and heavier - though the silicon-based ones are really good for repairing damage) with a colour-protecting conditioner, and also use leave-in conditioner or hot oil treatments if your hair is still really dry. If you do have dry hair naturally, dying your hair regularly is definitely not recommended.
  • Do not be over excessive with your makeup. Do not take thousands of pictures of yourself in one corner. That's just vain and unoriginal.
  • You may be mistaken for emo by critics. Be sure to correct them, because emo and scene are very different.
  • Dying coon stripes into your hair is a very risky move. You could just have coon tail extensions if you have long enough hair, though.
  • Don't over dress when out in places like the grocery store or post office, because other scene kids will think you're a poseur. You should not be wearing a tutu, leggings, flats, six shirts, and every necklace you own in places like that. Only dress up for pictures and shows.
  • Do not take MySpace pictures where you look emo or goth.
  • Although scene lingo is important to use, don't go overboard in real life. Your non-scene friends might not understand "That guy is the sex!!! He's just so hardcore and rad!!!

Things You'll Need

  • Hair straightener
  • Hair gel/ hair wax
  • Hairspray
  • Hair dye (any colour you want!)
  • Lightning bolts
  • Rat tail comb
  • Choppy layers
  • Hello Kitty/Gloomy Bear/Miffy/Girl stuff
  • Teasing comb
  • Vintage Bags, Or Kiddy Bags, With A Miffy, Hello Kitty, etc., print
  • Clip In Hair Extensions (colorful)
  • Hair bows, ribbons and clips
  • Colorful eyeliner and eyeshadow
  • Mascara or false lashes
  • Cute necklaces, i.e. bats, hearts, diamonds
  • A cell phone. You can also try an iPod Touch, since they can also be used for instant communication (AIM, Myspace, Twitter, etc), and it is very similar to an iPhone
  • A MySpace / Facebook / AIM
  • A digital camera/webcam / GPS mobile phone
  • Zebra print everything; shoes, necklaces, etc.
  • Leopard print
  • Vintage style
  • Bright colored clothing
  • Skinny jeans, tutus, and black leggings are a must
  • Tape necklaces
  • Black nail polish and bright colors
  • Many band paraphernalia
  • Portable music [iPod, mp3 player, etc.]
  • Hairdryer

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