How to Avoid Harboring Negative Thoughts About Your Husband

Staying positive in a marriage is important. No one can avoid all negative thoughts. However, having less negative thoughts towards or about your husband and make your marriage happier.

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    Ask yourself, are you an angel? Not likely. No one behaves perfectly all the time, least of all you or your husband. We all, as human beings, make mistakes. Our loved ones in our lives should support and direct us instead of attacking our mistakes, so try to be easy on your spouse when he makes a mistake. Be easy on yourself too. Maybe think about it in a funny way and remember to always be supportive and loving.
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    Remind yourself of good times when things are bad. When you fight and you hate your spouse all of sudden and hate everything about them, remember that if you really love each other you won't feel this way for long. You should think: Is he always like that? Is that always the situation? Are you happy apart from the fight? Does he ever make you smile when you think about him? For example, sometimes it takes only staring at his face to remind you how lucky you are to have him in your life?
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    Don't make negative comparisons. There is no point wishing your husband was more like your sister's husband or your kid's teacher or Brad Pitt! You are not married to any of those other people. Think about the things you like about him, not about the things you wish he had.
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    Compromise. You can be a bit annoyed that he's left the loo seat up, again, but do try to compromise, at least he hasn't weed on the floor!
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    Don't discuss everything you hate about your married life with your husband. That is definitely not avoiding harboring negative thoughts towards your husband.
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    Stay close to your husband. Face him and talk things through nicely to avoid any misunderstanding or misinterpretation of feelings and thoughts. Hug it out, sit down and let things out -- tell him how you feel but again do so nicely, never be aggressive or rude with your partner -- that's a big no, as it may mean tolerating them being aggressive or rude to you.
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    Consider whether your husband behaves childishly. Some men, like some women, never really grow up. With an immature person, it can be easier to approach some behaviors as you would cope with a child.
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    Always ask. Do not interpret your husband's words and actions yourself. If you don't know why he's done something or what he meant, ask him!
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    Be proud of your husband and accept him the way he is.

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