How to Avoid Becoming a Bridezilla for Your Wedding

Bridezilla! The word that puts the fear of God into any potential bride-to-be and also her bridesmaids. As with everything in life it is up to you what type of bride you want to be but here's a few ways to help avoid becoming everyone's worst nightmare.


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    Relax. The most important thing to remember is to stay calm. A marriage is a very big deal, you have made a life changing choice but it doesn't mean that it should stress you out. Every wedding will bring about a certain amount of stress, the sheer multi-tasking organisation of it all is enough to tap into raw nerves. But you need to always keep in mind that you are choosing to do this, you wanted to do this. Make time for yourself to relax however you please, perhaps a warm bath or a drive out of town for a few hours. These moments away will bring you back to your normal self and able to tackle the next task...calmly.
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    Listen and appreciate. One thing you will quickly notice is that everyone will be offering their opinions and advice, everyone will have wisdom that they wish to impart on you. It's very easy to become overwhelmed by it all, especially with those that can be a bit too pushy with their thoughts. Pay attention to what they have to say, take a deep breath and thank them for their advice, you will come across as being gracious under pressure and at the end of the day you don't have to take any of it on board if you don't want to. But every now and then you will find a little gem amongst the rubbish that will help you in your planning.
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    Handle with care. Bridesmaids are honoured when asked to be exactly that so don't make them regret saying yes to you. It's a fine line to walk between keeping them busy enough that they feel helpful and you being demanding and overbearing. Sit down one night and work out all the jobs that need to be done, consider who could help you in which areas and then take a second look to make sure you're not overloading them with tasks. Use them to their best advantages, use the skills that they have to assist you to get the job done but also give them something that they can do, that they are good at. A wedding from all aspects is supposed to be joyous and fun, make sure it doesn't quickly become a chore for them.
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    Take five. Make sure you allow time for yourself and your fiancé(e). Allot a time slot in each day, no matter how small or big, that is just for you to relax in. Also do the same for just you and your fiancé(e) to reconnect amidst the madness. It will help you to remain calm through stressful moments, gives you something to look forward to and keeps you and your partner close through the journey towards the big day.
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    Lastly. Expect the unexpected, embrace the possibilities. When you finally get to your day ignore the natural impulse to imagine how it's going to turn out. When you have bucket loads of people, bars full of alcohol and friends and family in one space, expect things to take on a life of their own. Don't let the little things bother you, if something goes wrong always remember that it could always be worse. Most important of all keep in mind the whole time that none of it matters because you just married the person you wanted to spend the rest of your life with.


  • Deep breaths do work, so does walking away to catch some air. Simple yet effective, use them whenever you feel a bridezilla attack rising inside of you.
  • Once the day arrives just let go. Accept that there is nothing more that you can do, you have planned, prepared and organised all you can; from here on out it is up to the people you have hired and enrolled to carry the rest of the plan out for you.
  • If in doubt as to whether you have stepped over the line to Bridezilla-land, ask someone. Your nearest and dearest will be kind and honest enough to tell you if you're going to far.
  • Remember that these friends are practically your family because only those closest to you should be given the responsibility of supporting something so personal to you. They only want the best for you, your significant other, and your big day so pay them some respect and appreciate their help.


  • Every bride has a little stress, even the most laid back ones. Just because you stress or worry a little, doesn't mean you need to immediately panic that you have become Bridezilla.

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