How to Ask Dr. Laura for Advice

For those who don't know her, Dr. Laura Schlessinger is a popular conservative radio talk show host. On her daily program, she preaches, teaches, and nags about morals, ethics, values, standards, principles, and families. Millions of people call her show for advice on coping with a wide range of marriage, parenting, career, and personal problems. She is strident in asserting the importance of stay-at-home parenting, abstinence until marriage, not living together before marriage, and the proper treatment of husbands and wives. In short, she wants everyone to be their kids' mom and their husband's girlfriend. Her direct, no-nonsense, straightforward approach with callers can either be very helpful to you in dealing with your dilemma, but it can also be characterized as abrasive, firm, and sometimes even rude. If you have a dilemma and would like this sort of advice, follow these steps to call the Dr. Laura Show.


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    Ask yourself what your dilemma is and why you want Dr. Laura's advice, before you call the show. If you've listened to her show for quite some time, you may have heard her take calls or read emails from other people with problems similar to yours. In this case, your question may have already been answered indirectly. If you still intend to ask her opinion and think you would benefit from her feedback, call the show. Do not call, however, if you have done something wrong, because she will bully and scold you. A therapist or counselor would be better able to help you work through your guilt.
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    Decide as exactly and specifically as possible what your question is going to be, and write it down so you don't forget.
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    Call 1-800-DRLAURA (800-375-2872) between the hours of 11:30 AM and 3 PM Pacific Time Monday through Friday. Due to the high call volume, you will most likely get a busy signal, but just keep trying. Call from a land line phone or get stationary with a cell phone.
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    Turn your radio off, not down.
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    Be ready with your question. When you get through, you will first talk to Dr. Laura's call screener. When talking to him/her, relax and have your question ready. Try to be as specific as possible. Tell him/her what your question is and how you expect to be helped by Dr. Laura. If you're dealing with an emotional issue, take your time, and take some deep breaths. Sometimes the screener will be able to help you phrase your question the right way. Write this down so you don't forget it while on hold. You will then be placed on hold, and you'll be able to hear the show. While on hold just relax. Just before you get on the air with Dr. Laura, you will hear some brief static.
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    Keep calm and stick to your original story.
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    Ask her your question first, then give her only the relevant background information and only that which she requests.
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    Answer with only "yes or no", when asked a "yes or no" question.
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    Do not present an ongoing set of never-ending pieces to the story. It will confuse her and distract her from getting to the core of your issue. Dr. Laura likes to get to the root of the problem very quickly (and she's very good at it!), and she doesn't necessarily have all the time in the world to spend with one caller.
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    Do not begin your sentences with the words "I just", "I feel," "I can't," or "I'll try." Dr. Laura wants you to deal with the reality of your situation and take responsibility for your actions, and, depending on your particular dilemma, she may not care about how you feel, but about what is and what the solution is. Her opinions and solutions to these problems are inherently black-and-white, right or wrong.
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    If she gives a suggestion, don't tell her that you've already tried it. She hears this all the time and she doesn't buy it most of the time. Yes, there are times when a caller has already done what she suggests, and she'll just say, "Good." Finish with the call and disconnect.
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    Think about the conversation you had with Dr. Laura. Take her advice with a grain of salt. Often callers can look at their situation from a different perspective and they're grateful for it. Other callers may just feel bullied and intimidated by her.


  • The on-air phone lines are for questions only. If you have a comment for Dr. Laura, it's best to email her. She reads all of the emails she receives, but there's no guarantee that she will read them on the air.
  • Dr. Laura takes calls from children too. If you are the parent of a child who wishes to call her show, sit right there with your son/daughter while they talk to the screener and Dr. Laura. The screener will often be able to help your child come up with the concise manner in which to ask their question. You can help also, but don't prompt them, because then it's not their question. It's yours.
  • When you call, it's a good idea to be completely focused on the call, not multitasking and trying to do other things like washing the dishes. Although these activities may be second nature to you, this is a very important phone call which should be given your undivided attention. Of course, you can do these things while on hold.
  • If you have a dilemma between you and someone else, it's a good idea to call the with the other person so she can hear both sides of the story and provide a more well-rounded opinion and/or solution to your problem.
  • Dr. Laura also answers questions via her YouTube channel. Every week she chooses a question from the many that she receives and uploads a video containing the answer.


  • Dr. Laura's advice can be very blunt, and it may not be what you want to hear. Don't expect her to take your side. If she does, that's good. If not, just listen to what she has to say and move on.
  • Do not phrase your question to the screener in a way that would sway Dr. Laura's opinion or manipulate her into taking your side. Even if you do this, Dr. Laura most likely won't cooperate with that motive.
  • Of all of the calls that get through to the screener, only an estimated 20% actually get on the air.
  • You may have to wait on hold for a long, long time. You may even need to hang up and call back later.
  • You may feel attacked, humiliated, or insulted by Dr. Laura, depending on what you talked about, but keep in mind that that's part of her technique. She wants you to have a little bit of a shock and a rude awakening, especially if your question is regarding something immoral or unethical that you have done. Not only that, but she also has her ratings to think about and doesn't want to see them suffer. Just own up to it. That's what she wants to hear.

Things You'll Need

  • A problem or dilemma that relates to morals, ethics, values, principles, marriage, parenting, or work
  • Focus and relaxation
  • A land line phone or cell phone (not on speaker, headset or bluetooth)
  • The maturity to grow up, tell the truth, take responsibility for your actions, and handle what she says with honor, character, courage, and integrity

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