How to Accept Who You Are

Obviously you're going to have a point in life where that one person does not like you... but if you accept yourself, then who gives a darn? Loving yourself is one of, if not, the hardest, things to try to do but with a lot of courage, determination and lots good people around you it's definitely possible.


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    Sit down and have a think. About: what you've learnt about yourself so far, what you've accomplished that makes you happy and what you regret that makes you sad. Think about who you want to be and the pro's and con's of that. Maybe you might be conforming to someone else's ideal version of you or maybe you'll be able to love who you want, when you want freely. Of course this won't be a quick 10 minute realisation but it'll set the foundation for massive leaps in the future and hopefully make the inevitable change less scary.
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    Realize that you aren't going to change anything by putting yourself down. It won't help you accept who you are, it will only make you fall head over heels in depression. (And if that does happen make sure you know that there are so many people that care about you and that are willing to help.)
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    Let go of your flaws. Everyone has them. Don't feel bad. Or if it's something you don't like that you can change healthily like your hair colour, go for it. Feel comfortable in your own skin.
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    Dress the way you want to dress. This is crucial! If you hate pink, don't wear it! If you wanna dress in all black and go to school like that, you should do it. Whatever makes you happy! Don't give anyone the power to make you feel bad about yourself.
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    Build up your self confidence. Don't stay in your room. Get out and about! But don't push yourself too far, some people are made for heavy socialising and some people don't like the idea of it at all. Find your comfort zone, this is all about accepting who you are right?
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    Do something that you've always wanted to do, but haven't for some reason. If you want to take ballet, and you've been afraid that someone will tease you, go, shoot for the stars. If you've wanted to ask that girl/guy (remember, you can love/like whoever the heck you want, it's nobody else's business.) out, but don't want to be teased over it, who cares? Social status means nothing when it comes to feelings.
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    Don't listen to anyone that puts you down. You are you. They can think what they want. Ask yourself: Who's better? You or them? You! Cut the negative people out of your life, who cares about that mean girl in English class? You'll probably never see her again.
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    Try to do your best in everything. Just let go of fear in general. That Maths test tomorrow? You've studied all night and now it's 1AM. Go to sleep. Physical and Mental health always come first, you are so important.
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    Find a way to express yourself. Whether it be dancing, writing, or painting, find it. Self expression is an extension of yourself, so find something that you enjoy and can do well. Don't be afraid to make mistakes or quit something, if playing the guitar doesn't work out and you're only doing it to make someone else happy, stop it. If you're not enjoying it then what's the point?


  • Be kind to yourself.
  • Tell yourself, "I'm awesome the way I am. I need not bother about other people's comments, unless they really matter."
  • Be positive. Thinking negatively normally leads to a negative outcome.
  • "The only thing we have to fear is fear itself."
  • The only person you should strive to be better than is the person you were yesterday. Positive affirmations repeated out loud at home and in your mind during the day carries you through tough times.
  • You have one life to live, so enjoy it as much as possible.
  • Recognise your strengths and weaknesses and be happy about yourself.
  • Smile! It tricks your brain into thinking you're happy and makes other people smile too.
  • Do something that helps you forget your limitations and connects you to the infinite source of energy and wisdom (definitely not drugs or alcohol).
  • Be assertive, but do not be so aggressive that you ruin the fun for everyone.


  • Don't completely cut everyone out of your life. You need some friend/family love too!
  • Try not to come off as too arrogant or snobby. It will not get you very far in life. Be confident, but make sure to show humility as well; this will help in being respected.

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